Thomas X Forever Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 So this girl and me have been getting very serious, and we talk, hell, sometimes 6 hours a night.. We just love talking to each other and we basically covered our lives already. WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU RUN OUT OF THINGS TO SAY? I've thought about going through the alphabet A-Z and just talking about the first thing that comes to mind under that letter. Like A, talk about Alcatrax B, talk about Baton C, talk about cats. Is that weird we ran out of things to talk bout? Or maybe we just talk too much. But damn, I need to figure out some damn things to talk about.
TaraMaiden Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 You obviously have no life, otherwise you'd be talking about the interesting things you do during your day, the people you meet, the discussions you have, the work you've done, the people you've engaged with, the thoughts you've had.... works for me....
Author Thomas X Forever Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 I walk up and down the runway and do photoshoots. Now what do I say. See what I mean? Man I probably just suck at conversation. I need a good self help book on carrying diverse conversations.
DSM2709 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 TXF, don't worry, your not alone. I ran into the same problem yesterday when I went out with this girl I met, and we were having lunch, and the conversation was kind of "dead in the water", if you know what I mean. I too don't know what to say. I guess you have to just make up s***, right?
Author Thomas X Forever Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 LOL yeah Dsm definitely. Hell, I like my alphabet idea. I just don't want superficial small talk, you know? It's okay, tonight we had a long conversation that was pretty meaningful. But tomorrow..? Where the hell are the self help books for conversation? Any good questions to ask someone you're pretty much dating? There's gotta be some fun questions. Non perverted ones. Neither she nor me are looking to sleep around with each other or anything for a long time so PG/PG-13 questions at the worst.
DSM2709 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Ah damn, sex questions can be fun, it lightens the mood a bit I think. Doesn't mean your gonna sleep together, it just means that your human and you think about stuff like that. Nothing wrong with being a little perverted these days, especially if she plays along.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Run out of things to talk about = does not compute. I guess that's because I'm naturally curious about people and what they think about things. I like to figure out how people "tick," so to speak. Tell her to pick a topic of current events (or YOU pick one) and give thoughts/opinions. I don't see how you could run out of current events to talk about unless you simply don't read the paper or hear any news whatsoever. It's hard for me to pick questions/topics for you when I don't know either of you. But I bet you money if I did, I'd come up with a ton. I looked back on an email where I asked a bunch of questions to this guy I'm seeing...but none would really apply to you guys. I asked him about his profession (i.e., his thoughts on how people view those IN his profession), I asked him if he was where he thought he'd be at this point of his life 20 years ago, I asked him a silly question about Santa Claus, asked him about his favorite foods, etc. I dunno. You could grill her on her knowledge of the DSM. Or just go with your alphabet thing.
utterer of lies Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Is that weird we ran out of things to talk bout? In general? Yes. With you? I guess not. But damn, I need to figure out some damn things to talk about. There's only one topic you can drone on about endlessly - yourself.
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 There's only one topic you can drone on about endlessly - yourself. Maybe that's where the problem lies...not a whole lot there to talk about.
mammax3 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 It sounds like the two of you have a great connection! Pick out some stuff of what she's already mentioned during the course of the conversation. Read the paper - maybe you get a break during walking the runway? There are a jillion things to talk about in there, it doesn't need to be all about the major world event. It can be local festivals or a small article on a house being torn down - not every conversation needs to be deep and meaningful, but often can turn there from fun conversations.
stepka Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Here's where the internet can come to your rescue once again. These sites can offer enough conversation material to keep you going forever: http://orbitingfrog.com/blog/ http://www.angelfire.com/extreme4/kiddofspeed/highres/highres.html http://www.darkroastedblend.com/2005/03/welcome.html I esp like dark roasted blend. If you both like to read, there is plenty of stuff to talk about there. I knew a man once who hated to read, and though I love to, he was interesting because he watched good shows on TV, like from the history channel, so he always had something interesting to talk about. If you're political and conservative, you can talk about the radio talk shows, and if you're political and liberal you can talk about what was on NPR today. That sort of thing--and you can always dig deeper into any subject. Anyway Thomas, it shows good character that you don't like to talk about yourself.
Author Thomas X Forever Posted August 23, 2009 Author Posted August 23, 2009 Lmao stepka, excellent. Many thanks! We both love the universe and what not.
Vet Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Running out of things to talk about = death knell of the relationship. Secret's finding someone you just don't run out of things to talk about; someone that opens your mind.
westernxer Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU RUN OUT OF THINGS TO SAY? You say goodnight and go to bed. LOL
utterer of lies Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Maybe that's where the problem lies...not a whole lot there to talk about. But that never stopped him before..
kizik Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Thomas, tell her about walking up and down the runway like a 17-year-old anorexic Russian chick. Tell her about your abs and your Calvin Klein spots. Tell her about how you've mastered both the DSM and psychology in general. Ask her about her neglectful father and tell her how it still affects her today. But whenever you hit a quiet moment in the conversation, just continue telling her what's great about you. Nothing turns a woman on more than endless narcissism.
MadDriver Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 You obviously have no life, otherwise you'd be talking about the interesting things you do during your day, the people you meet, the discussions you have, the work you've done, the people you've engaged with, the thoughts you've had.... works for me.... Bump for TaraMaiden's advice. If your own life is not that interesting, then talk about your friend's lives (i.e. gossip). If you don't want to poison the well too much with personal gossip, then gossip about Hollywood starts (get material from US magazine, etc.)
Land Shark Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 You say goodnight and go to bed. LOL Precisely. After an hour or so I'm ready to get off the phone. I've never in my life talked to someone for 6 hours. If you aren't sleepy, follow Elvis' advice: "A little less conversation, a little more action"
BUENG1 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 After six hours your always going to run out of things to talk about.
utterer of lies Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 After six hours your always going to run out of things to talk about. Err....no?
Citizen Erased Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Uh don't talk for 6 hours and you won't run out of things to talk about. A half hour and I'm off the phone.
BUENG1 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Err....no? Honestly you can talk on the phone with someone on the for 6 hours everyday and not run out of things to talk about? With any of my ex's I never talked on the phone with them for more than 1 or 2 hours tops.
prettybaby Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 6 hours straight? Well no wonder lol Is this someone you've recently started dating?
Recommended Posts