bhxoxo20 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 So heres the delima. Ive been with a guy for the last year and a half. I Love him with all my heart. About 8 mo. ago I started to notice a change in him. We would get in fights and i would leave. He became very cold and distant towards me. Our sex life was minimal. He increasingly became more and more disrespectful towards me. Last May i found pics that he took with his phone of himself, in the bathroom without his shirt off. So i began my investigation. Later i found strange phone numbers on his work cell and he had a text from a prostitute. She confirmed this when i called her. He gave me all kinds of crazy excuses and denied everything. Made me look like i was crazy myself. I found a charge to a hotel on his bank statement a week later and moved out. Even after that i began seeing him again because he came clean and told me he was visiting massage parlors for hand jobs. He professed his mistake and love for me. He said he would go to counciling and would never do this again. He promised me the cell phone records from his work so i could confirm his story. I wanted to believe him. About two weeks later he began to get distant again. Acting strange. My guard was already up since there is no trust. Then we were at the electronics store and i caught him asking a sales person in the computer software dept. if there were any programs that would allow you to change a cell phone bill. I walked out, changed my number and left town, havent returned. Its been one week. At first he begged me to stay and give him the benifit of the doubt. He has called my old number a few times a day but i havent replied till today. He was crying and said he just wants to be able to get a hold of me if he needs to. He asked me if i wanted him in my life. Never asked if i would come back to him or offered any solution to the problem. He talked about what he was going to do different in his next relationship. And told me he thought i was the one and he had so many plans for the future for us. (he never talked about our future when we were together) I didnt give him my number but i just cant let him go. What should i do.
You'reasian Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Sorry to hear your dramatic story. Drop the guy and move on. Next.
hendersongirl Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Can you think of any situation where you would trust him again? Anything he could do that would make you feel good and secure in your relationship? If he promised not to see anyone else ever again... Would that be enough? If you could ask for phone bills at random whenever you like and he would give them to you... Would that be enough? If he no longer had his own phone, but the two of you shared... Would that be enough? Think about it properly, look into your heart. I suspect you would not trust him no matter what. Can you live with that? It might go away, it might get better. But it probably won't. It's up to you - you can go back to him if you like, but whatever betrayal and loss of trust you feel now you will probably feel for years to come. Is he worth that?
Lizzie60 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 I think he finally got this famous software.. Leave him... you will always have trust issues with this guy.. life is too short..
missdependant Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 What a tool!!! It takes time to get over someone that you love, especially when they treat you like absolute sh**. ..But you've gotta drop this sucker like a bad habit! I'd say it's pretty safe to assume that he isn't going to change. EVER. And yeah I agree with what lizzie said.
Javelin Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 What should i do. You know what you have to do, the problem is that you're having trouble doing it. i just cant let him go. Yes you can and when you do, trust that you will eventually find the happiness that you deserve! Just be thankful that you are not legally bound to this moron with kids or worse... a mortgage.
huck Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 He sounds like a classy guy... Going to pros for handjobs and then trying to buy the phone software while you were in the shop!!... Id read ' Hendersongirls ' reply over and over again.. In short - the TRUST is gone.. he might of had his good points and you probably loved him - but hes a first class douche... Sorry your going thru this - but find a real man that wont mess you about...
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