lvixen Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I've already spent roughly $1000 on moving related stuff, told all my familly and friends that I'm moving and prepared myself for my 3k mile move. I also quit my job. We've been dating for 8 months. But I feel he might be backing out or losing interest in me. I'm not sure what's going on. He doesn't call me that often anymore and it's me that is trying to maintain contact, calling him everyday. This is a shift from a pattern as he would usually call me. When I do call he doesn't seem very enthusiastic anymore although he isn't necessarily itching to get off the phone with me. When I talk about the move he doesn't really reply to anything I say about it. He seems to get annoyed when I show him affection by asking me why I'm doing it. This all has been happening within the last week. I figure I should not call him and wait for him to call me to see if he really loves me anymore, but this is extremely difficult for me. I'm really afraid here. I've invested a lot into this move and I'm deeply in love with him. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks
hoping2heal Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 I've already spent roughly $1000 on moving related stuff, told all my familly and friends that I'm moving and prepared myself for my 3k mile move. I also quit my job. We've been dating for 8 months. But I feel he might be backing out or losing interest in me. I'm not sure what's going on. He doesn't call me that often anymore and it's me that is trying to maintain contact, calling him everyday. This is a shift from a pattern as he would usually call me. When I do call he doesn't seem very enthusiastic anymore although he isn't necessarily itching to get off the phone with me. When I talk about the move he doesn't really reply to anything I say about it. He seems to get annoyed when I show him affection by asking me why I'm doing it. This all has been happening within the last week. I figure I should not call him and wait for him to call me to see if he really loves me anymore, but this is extremely difficult for me. I'm really afraid here. I've invested a lot into this move and I'm deeply in love with him. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks I'm sorry this is happening. I would be bold faced lying if I didn't say I didn't worry about this happening to me. That said, it sounds like you will be moving in with him soon? It sounds like he is getting cold feet, that doesn't mean he doesn't want to be with you, it just might be hitting him what a big change this isgoing to be, and that can be scary for anyone. I guess you should tell him what you've told us and get to the bottom. Communication is going to be very important here. Good luck!
Lucky_One Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Or he could even just be having a bad week at work, or with something else. Have you asked him directly? And even asked him directly about the move? If it is hard for you to come out with the questions, then try writing them down into something as short and direct as possible, so that you are very clear about what it is that you want to know. "I have everything in order to move there in 16 days. Do you have any second thoughts about this, or misgivings?" That sort of thing. I would be worried, too; I know you have been together for 8 months, but how much of that has been face-to-face time (or total meetings, if you haven't really spent anything more than weekends together)?
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