Gypsie Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I had a thing with this guy a couple of months ago. It only happened once. Found out he had a girlfriend and kids in another state. Straight after totally barred him. A few weeks later the girl rings me and starts abusing me through texts. I am like, huh? I am not even seeing this guy any more and you are hounding me for no reason? She found out I wasn't and apologised for her behavior and we had left it at that. For the last week or so, I saw he's number pop up on my phone again. I ignored it. He's rang a few times since then, ignored all them too. Today I saw earlier that he's girlfriend may have possibly rang as well. I thought, not this again! I have done nothing wrong. Haven't seen or contacted this guy in months. Just wanted to move on and have. They are the ones with the problems it's got nothing to do with me and I don't want to get involved. It is seriously pissing me off! Should I tell them to not bother me or just ignore them and hope they get the hint? I am not in their lives, just want them to butt out of mine.
kizik Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 It IS your problem, b/c you f*cked a guy without knowing him, at all. And it IS partially your fault... b/c you f*cked a guy without knowing him, at all. Did you even ask if he had a GF? So let's not play too innocent here. I am sorry, though, that you find yourself in this Jerry Springer-esque conundrum. My advice would be to change your phone number if they're "abusing" you.
Gemini09 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Should I tell them to not bother me or just ignore them and hope they get the hint? I am not in their lives, just want them to butt out of mine. I think you should just ignore them, and they should both get the hint.
Vet Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 It IS your problem, b/c you f*cked a guy without knowing him, at all. And it IS partially your fault... b/c you f*cked a guy without knowing him, at all. Did you even ask if he had a GF? So let's not play too innocent here. I am sorry, though, that you find yourself in this Jerry Springer-esque conundrum. My advice would be to change your phone number if they're "abusing" you. Wow. Just.. wow.
WTRanger Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 It IS your problem, b/c you f*cked a guy without knowing him, at all. And it IS partially your fault... b/c you f*cked a guy without knowing him, at all. Did you even ask if he had a GF? So let's not play too innocent here. I am sorry, though, that you find yourself in this Jerry Springer-esque conundrum. My advice would be to change your phone number if they're "abusing" you. Have you considered he might have lied to her about this? No where in her original post did she say how their relationship was. You are just making an assumption here that it was a one night fling or a quick fling. Either way, Gypsie you need to block their phone numbers. If they continue to harass you then you might need to change your number all together. If it still persists, then you'll need to let the law take over. It's a lousy situation to be in, but at least you want no part in it and you just want to move on with your life. What's in the past is in the past, and it should stay there.
Gemini09 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Have you considered he might have lied to her about this? No where in her original post did she say how their relationship was. You are just making an assumption here that it was a one night fling or a quick fling. He doesn't consider. He just likes to bicker.
kizik Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Hi, thanks for saying that, but I did consider that he could have been lying to her. People let themselves be lied to. We can all pick up on lies and red flags if we're smart enough, instead of just seeing what we want to see. People are deep in denial, and when that's the case I blame the buyer of the lie as much as the liar. You're right that I don't know the details, but anytime you mess around with someone you are running a risk. I am not saying the OP deserves to be harassed over the phone, but I tire of her supposed innocence. And I also the think the situation is kind of humorous, b/c the other woman is harassing the new woman... very Trashy TV. That is all.
loveslife Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I've been in a similar situation and can assure you there's nothing humourous about it. Yeah, I was in a little bit of denial about the guy's intentions, etc. etc. and I did get out as soon as I found out he was "taken." But getting harrassed can be frightening and I think you're pretty cold, kizik, if you make light of it.
Vet Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Hi, thanks for saying that, but I did consider that he could have been lying to her. People let themselves be lied to. We can all pick up on lies and red flags if we're smart enough, instead of just seeing what we want to see. People are deep in denial, and when that's the case I blame the buyer of the lie as much as the liar. You're right that I don't know the details, but anytime you mess around with someone you are running a risk. I am not saying the OP deserves to be harassed over the phone, but I tire of her supposed innocence. And I also the think the situation is kind of humorous, b/c the other woman is harassing the new woman... very Trashy TV. That is all. So, you presuppose guilt (as in sex is something to be guilty for) of anyone that has sex with anyone?
kizik Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 But getting harrassed can be frightening and I think you're pretty cold, kizik, if you make light of it. I'm really not. It just makes me want to start a thread, "Why do women blame the women when they should blame the men."
kizik Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 So, you presuppose guilt (as in sex is something to be guilty for) of anyone that has sex with anyone? I don't equate sex with guilt. I do think people need to be careful about who they sleep with, physically AND emotionally.
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