JL911 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I simply cannot get a whole nights sleep since this has happened now almost a month ago... Ive been going on a lot of walks, doing push ups, situps, and doing squats ect throughout the day, still not tired... I dream about her constantly...I fall asleep at 12am wake up at 1...lay there in thought for another hour fall asleep wake back up at 330...Lay there another half hour fall asleep till 530am then up again... Its now like 230am here I think probaly the past 2 nights I may have got 7hours sleep TOTAL none of it being constant and hour here 2hours there...I dont even feel like trying to sleep or am just trying to keep myself awake until I have no energy left and crash... Im thinking about tryin to maybe take something to knock myself out...
Dmoney28 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 yeah, i remeber after my break up, i couldnt sleep a wink...took me a total of 7 months before i could get anything close to 5 hours sleep. Sleeping pills worked for me(that and red wine). Now i dont advise it...but it worked for me til slowly started getting better. If you have a Dr, ask for sleeping aids. Lunesta worked wonders for me....that and serequel. Try over the counter sleep aids like unisom. They dont work as good...but its better than nothing
sb129 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I agree- for short term use, sleeping pills definitely have their place.
BW007 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Be careful about this as this is both a symptom and a trigger for a major depression. Take it really seriously and if you have a shrink or doctor tell him whats up(you). I have this same problem when I hit major depressions. Try some relaxation exercises possibly too.
jenfrizt Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 you got a sleeping disorder try to go to the Dr. do some check up .. try if that pills would work on you..
Optimism Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I am also not sleeping, did try sleeping pills, but they made me feel like a zombie the next day and made me a emotional wreck. I have tried to make myself physically tires too and the mind is stronger. My routine go to bed at midnight and wake up 3AM, 5AM, and 7AM have not slept a full night since everything was turned upside down. I am sure given time it will get better, has been about a month... hang in there.
aboynamedmike Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Doing pushups and stuff is ok, but what will really knock you out is running, I guarantee it. If you go for a nice long run, come home, take a shower, eat some food, lay down to watch tv, you will PASS OUT! I never liked the idea of taking drugs to help with problems in my life. I do take a multi-vitamin cause I'm in college and I eat the worse food lol. But it always seem like the side effects outweigh the actual benefit of the drug. Personally, I'd just keep as busy as possible doing stuff so you're always exhausted..eventually you'll get to that day when it's like 10pm and you'll think about her and say, "holy crap! I haven't thought about you all day!" And trust me, that day does come
CaliGuy Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I simply cannot get a whole nights sleep since this has happened now almost a month ago... Ive been going on a lot of walks, doing push ups, situps, and doing squats ect throughout the day, still not tired... I dream about her constantly...I fall asleep at 12am wake up at 1...lay there in thought for another hour fall asleep wake back up at 330...Lay there another half hour fall asleep till 530am then up again... Its now like 230am here I think probaly the past 2 nights I may have got 7hours sleep TOTAL none of it being constant and hour here 2hours there...I dont even feel like trying to sleep or am just trying to keep myself awake until I have no energy left and crash... Im thinking about tryin to maybe take something to knock myself out... No. But, if you can handle it, I find that a glass of wine about 1/2 hour before bed makes me sleep like a puppy (and I'm just as cute as one too! muhaha!). Seriously, have you considered talking to a counselor? And if your walking, that's not enough. You need to do about 45 mins of cardio every day. That will help stave off depression.
adamt Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Try reading books. have one by your bedside and when you cant get to sleep, pick it up and read. it took me 2 months to get my sleeping back to normal. I was waking up at 5:30-6am every mornng and not sleeping until 1am. I found hammering the gym and reading a book before going to bed helped.
seoa Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 if it's 'busy brain' syndrome, then you need something that's gonna switch your brain off from thoughts of her... and i know how hard that is when she's all you wanna think of... my sleeping was awful the first month, but it's settled now... partly it's a choice - all the time you're choosing to think of her then the thoughts will fill your brain (and i know how hard it is when you're half-awake at 3am - he was all i wanted to think about in those early weeks) do whatever switches your brain off - whether that's reading an unrelated book (about whatever catches your attention next most strongly to thoughts of her)... maybe switch on the TV for a while (not too long, and i know this is not usually good advice for insomniacs, but sometimes it helps in cancelling out the insane brain activity), maybe go in the kitchen & prepare lunch for the next day (saving money on bought-lunches in the process!) a glass of wine or 2 can knock you out to start with, but generally leads to a more restless night's sleep, so doesn't really help with the wakings...
pie_eater Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 One thing I would suggest if you have all these thoughts spinning in your head when you wake up is to write them down. Your mind thinks a lot faster than you can write so it is mentally fatiguing. Also, you feel like you've let something out. Often, for me, I was able to let those feelings go at least for the night. Still took between 2 and 3 months for me to get some regular sleep though. Im about 4 months out and there are still some sleepless nights (often after going out and drinking), but they are becoming fewer and fewer.
stillafool Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 I feel for you. It sucks to keep waking up and thinking and wondering who they are with. I think the idea of running is very good. You need to wear yourself out to exhaustion. I don't believe in taking sleeping pills because you will feel like crap the next day and you don't want to start relying on them. Also writing your feelings down will help as you are getting it off your chest. You can always come here also but that will keep you awake. What I would do is pray every night before I tried to sleep. That's what always helped me fall asleep and stay sleep.
Lish Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 No. But, if you can handle it, I find that a glass of wine about 1/2 hour before bed makes me sleep like a puppy (and I'm just as cute as one too! muhaha!). Seriously, have you considered talking to a counselor? And if your walking, that's not enough. You need to do about 45 mins of cardio every day. That will help stave off depression. I'll say.
openbook08 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 sweet lord will they ever know what they put us thru!!! he still haunts my dreams YOCK
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