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I don't think there is anything wrong with Tevas IF you are using them for function, like you're going rafting or need shoes that can get wet, doing some sort of athletics that involve water...

 

But, everyday footwear? No.

 

However, I am not against flip flops!

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Also, he just wrote me again (without me writing him back) saying how he sees me at our local cafe (where I work out of pretty much everyday) and really wants to meet me.

 

CREEPY??

 

Creepy only if you never told him where you worked, and never posted that information on your profile.

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Creepy only if you never told him where you worked, and never posted that information on your profile.

 

No, I never did. I guess he's just been seeing me there, and taking notice, then writing me to tell me he did!

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I will never wear sandals of any type. They're for pussies.

 

But I will wear slippers to the beach. LOL

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A couple comments...

 

First, Teva actually makes flip flops. http://www.teva.com/productslist.aspx?g=m&categoryid=423&page=1 In fact, my BF has a pair that look exactly like the fourth one over on the top, but they're Reefs. Perhaps he was talking about his flip flops? Most men aren't brand conscious like that, so they wouldn't equate saying "Tevas" to the mandal that we women loathe. So perhaps you should clarify with him, in a flirty way?

 

Second, the "Tevas" comment could just be reflective of his outdoorsy lifestyle, and not a comment about what he wears on a daily basis. OR, it could even be a joke!

 

Third, if everything else seems cool, give the guy a chance. My BF wore an awful shirt on our first date... I mean, AWFUL. I'm so glad that I looked beyond it, because it was literally the only fashion faux pas he's ever committed (or even exists in his closet). Plus, if things develop, you can and will gently mold him. I've only recently teased him about that shirt. He claims he loves it, but guess what? He hasn't worn it in 9 months. ;)

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Flip-flops are fine, but I draw the line at anything else!

 

I mean, I can't date a guy who feet look like this:

 

http://www.h-lame.com/exec/vanilla.r?selector=display&snip=mandals

 

 

Who cares about the sandals....hell if a guy had nasty looking toenails like that, they are gone. So yeah, I couldn't date a guy who's feet looked like that regardless of what sandals. :lmao:

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Why do you care what he wears on his feet?

 

If you really are that fashion-conscious and "a shallow jerk" then just remember that our relationships are a reflection of who we are.

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Also, he just wrote me again (without me writing him back) saying how he sees me at our local cafe (where I work out of pretty much everyday) and really wants to meet me.

 

CREEPY??

 

 

Guy shows interest in you, who may not be the normal kinda guy who fawns over you, but you're too shy to tell him you're not interested and he can't read your mind = Creepy

 

or you're inexperienced and don't get out much

 

or both?

 

I guess the OP is flawless both in appearance and as a person. :D

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Don't worry. I'm shallow too. I date thin Asian girls. Therefore, I'm a shallow mother f*cker.

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That does seem pretty damn shallow, especially considering it's a changeable thing (see "molding" a la Star Gazer) AND you don't know if it's a joke, a travel necessity, etc. I'd ask more questions - he could be dropping hints about what is a very interesting lifestyle or hobby.

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I will never wear sandals of any type. They're for pussies.

 

But I will wear slippers to the beach. LOL

 

I actually was on a date with a girl a few months ago and she was giving me **** because I didn't want to wear flip-flops while walking around. She was kind of a bitch for this and several other reasons, so we only went out one time anyway.

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This thread is a good example of why people complain about not being able to find someone.



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Tevas, so that's what those hideous things are called! I hate those things! Neither sex should be caught dead in those things... They're an abomination to the shoe industry!

 

A guy can pull off flip-flops as long as they're in a beach or home area and have the right shorts & t-shirt to accommodate.

 

For example: I'm currently wearing a navy blue Reebok t-shirt with matching Reebok shorts and flip-flops..

 

You can also wear sneakers with shorts too! The trick is in the show itself and as long as you wear footie socks (NOT KNEE HIGHS!) with classic style low top sneakers, you should be fine. :)

 

I'm not huge into my style of dress, but I refuse to humilate my partner while we're out.

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I will never wear sandals of any type. They're for pussies.

 

But I will wear slippers to the beach. LOL

 

My feelings exactly. I tend to wear trail running shoes and always with socks. While it's ok for women to go around with exposed feet, guys should keep them covered up. Not just for aesthetic reasons, but because you're essentially useless if you aren't wearing real shoes. In case some kind of man-task comes up, you want to be ready. Even at Starbucks.

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i love rainbow sandals... in my area - if you don't own a pair - you are considered completely out of it. no need to live by the beach without a few broken in (comfortable) pair of rainbows. ;):cool::p

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This thread is a good example of why people complain about not being able to find someone.

 

 

 

 

 

It is interesting.

 

OP Won't date a guy because of cruddy toenails - but if the guy makes a loud @ss out of himself, acts like he's 16, sure he'd make a great date cuz he's funny! :laugh:

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My bf has a very ugly sweater which will accidentally-on-purpose end up being shrunk in the wash, as soon as I can arrange such a happy accident. If a guy is nice, what he wears makes no difference. You don't have to tell him what to wear - just make subtle comments that you find certain clothing sexy, give him more loving when he looks hot, and even take him shopping or buy him gifts of clothing. Stuff like a lack of fashion sense is very easily fixed.

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While it's ok for women to go around with exposed feet, guys should keep them covered up. Not just for aesthetic reasons, but because you're essentially useless if you aren't wearing real shoes. In case some kind of man-task comes up, you want to be ready. Even at Starbucks.

 

Exactly. You never know when duty will call.

 

We are a dying breed, the last minutemen of our generation. LOL

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Vet! You hit the bullseye! So true yet sad really....

Surprised that persons who cant see beyond their noses see others toes.

Its one of those ironies in life I suppose!

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:laugh:I've known for awhile that my friends judge men by what kind of shoes they wore. It's wierd but it's true. I remember my friend talking about how she could not stand a certain type of shoe.

 

For me, though, I am not detail-oriented. If you asked me to tell you what someone wore, I wouldn't be able to remember. I have a very abstract/the 'big' picture type of mind and I won't be able to recall details like shoes or pants or the types of tops. So, for me, anything goes. I don't mind; I wouldn't notice it. I can't recall an outfit I just hated. Then again, my sister says I don't have any fashion-sense so maybe that's why. :laugh:

 

Some people do see the details of life- I think it's just their personality. Nothing wrong with it. It brings us abstract people back down to earth.

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