BeautifulMan Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 All of these failed connections.. I find myself going to class, going to parties to drink and soon after that I want to go home to enjoy my buzz alone. There are no problem talking to girls, it just feels like I put on a fake charismatic personality because they love talking to me and laughing. I posted threads on these forums multiple times about a few of my many failed connections and it has come to the point where I have developed an apathetic attitude towards relationships, turning down girls even if they want to do the nasty.(they don't deserve to be called women). I am looking to find someone that I actually WANT to put effort in get to knowing. It's just disappointing not being able to attract the specific person I'm after. Not really looking for a response, just venting. I'd like to know who else is in the same boat as me. What are good ways to meet women? Any good online dating sites?
Green Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I read your rant and I'm just going to guess you were feeling depressed at the time u wrote it. Hope you feel better now.
jenfrizt Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 It depends on what you like.. if you want to meet them in a dating site.. and get to chat with them.. just try to socialize for more .. meet them in person would be a good one..
Hop_prophet Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I can definitely relate. In fact I even had several college friends who used to call me that as a nickname. I was really disgusted and turned off by a lot of the women I met at that time. Green may be right, I did have some depression issues so you may want to consider therapy. It didn't really help me but I went the medicine route which was a bad choice. Don't get discouraged and keep trying - force yourself to get out and mingle and you will meet interesting people. It doesn't seem like you have a major problem in that area. And don't put on an act otherwise you're not going to attract the person you want to. I would stay away from online dating and just look for other outlets in town besides the parties - music gigs, coffee houses, wine bars, etc...
amerikajin Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 All of these failed connections.. I find myself going to class, going to parties to drink and soon after that I want to go home to enjoy my buzz alone. There are no problem talking to girls, it just feels like I put on a fake charismatic personality because they love talking to me and laughing. I posted threads on these forums multiple times about a few of my many failed connections and it has come to the point where I have developed an apathetic attitude towards relationships, turning down girls even if they want to do the nasty.(they don't deserve to be called women). I am looking to find someone that I actually WANT to put effort in get to knowing. It's just disappointing not being able to attract the specific person I'm after. Not really looking for a response, just venting. I'd like to know who else is in the same boat as me. What are good ways to meet women? Any good online dating sites? I think I have been through a similar phase myself -- maybe even more than once. I was a so-called late bloomer and didn't really know much about dating until I was in my 20s, and honestly, I don't think I really began feeling comfortable and confident about dating until only a few years ago, and I'm 35 now. I think the times that I have snapped out of my funk and become more satisfied with my dating life have been when I begin to stop wanting it so much. The first time or two that it happened, I think the phase was temporary, but in recent years, I think I have come into my own. I think what has worked for me is that I now look at the big picture. I don't just look at my dating life; I look at my relationships with all people. I try to raise my level of satisfaction with life in general. I've learned that if I just focus on my own overall satisfaction with my life, the rest seems to follow. Honestly, I don't think I've ever been more satisfied with my love life. I focused on myself, cut out all the b.s. that comes with dating, and I found someone I connect with -- and that's all you need.
Cornholio12 Posted August 29, 2009 Posted August 29, 2009 I know how you feel with that one. With my bad luck as well, I've wanted to throw in the towel for good and say 'To hell with it', but I always come back and don't give up so easily anymore. Sure, it's tough, and a challenge, but it could always be much worse.
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