sickdog55 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 ok so everything was going good for the last week, have been in n/c for a week now then last night i get a bloody text from her saying "Where are you? your cousin is asking where you are..... even though my stupid cousin knows we are not together anymore,dont ask why he texted her.... anyway i texted her saying back " Im sorry about him texting you, hes probably had to much to drink, i will tell him where i am, sorry about that" i didnt tell her where i was of course .... Then she texts me back saying " No its ok he just wanted to know where you were, Why cant we be friends just answer that question?" So silly me texts her back saying " I just need time to heal, i have to many feelings to see you just yet, please understand, i dont hate you, just give me some more time, chat later bye..... then she just texts back saying "Ok" Now do you think i could have handled that better or what??? she probably thinks shes got me wrapped around her finger again... Should i just stay n/c if she texts me again and just ignore her, Because the last thing i want is to be friends with her Its funny because last time i texted her over a week ago i said i want a relationship not friends, leave me alone and let me go.... she has a new boyfriend.... but she's still keeping my number, its like shes the one that cant let go.... im 23 shes 17 bye the way i know shes to young... What do i do peoples
sexibanez Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 ok so everything was going good for the last week, have been in n/c for a week now then last night i get a bloody text from her saying "Where are you? your cousin is asking where you are..... even though my stupid cousin knows we are not together anymore,dont ask why he texted her.... anyway i texted her saying back " Im sorry about him texting you, hes probably had to much to drink, i will tell him where i am, sorry about that" i didnt tell her where i was of course .... Then she texts me back saying " No its ok he just wanted to know where you were, Why cant we be friends just answer that question?" So silly me texts her back saying " I just need time to heal, i have to many feelings to see you just yet, please understand, i dont hate you, just give me some more time, chat later bye..... then she just texts back saying "Ok" Now do you think i could have handled that better or what??? she probably thinks shes got me wrapped around her finger again... Should i just stay n/c if she texts me again and just ignore her, Because the last thing i want is to be friends with her Its funny because last time i texted her over a week ago i said i want a relationship not friends, leave me alone and let me go.... she has a new boyfriend.... but she's still keeping my number, its like shes the one that cant let go.... im 23 shes 17 bye the way i know shes to young... What do i do peoples Yeah, dude, she's a teenager! Go out with a proper women in her 20's, at least she will have some life experience and be allowed to drink legally lol! you shouldnt really need any advice, you're far older and by 23 should be able to handle emotions better than a 17 year old. just stay nc but make sure she knows the deal: NC for good. I don't mean to sound rude but I find her age way too young and this whole thing quite odd. She's not even officially an adult yet! But yeah, do what you need to do. Sorry if that wasn't very helpful!
EricaH329 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Ok, forget what she thinks or wants for a minute (since that should be the case anyway). What do you want to do?? It sounds to me like you want to do the right thing, by making sure there isn't any contact what so ever between the two of you so that you can move on and heal properly. Props to you about that btw. Since this whole situation is really about getting over her, you are going to need to forget about what she thinks, or what she might want, or anything to do with her. She is not your main concern right now. Your main concern is yourself. Getting over this. Healing so that you can move on and get on with your life. I know it's much easier said than done, but if you stick to the NC rule, you'll find that eventually you won't be bothered with thoughts about "Well... should I have done this.." or "What does she think since I did that...". She won't be a thought in your mind.
Meaplus3 Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 What should you do? Go back to NC. It may be tough at the start, but as time passes you will see how your thoughts of her will fade and the process of healing has begun. You can do it. BTW, I think you handled yourself very well. Mea:)
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