skjd1220 Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 So, I am once again overanalyzing. I went on a really great third date the other night. At the end of the date, he said he had a really great time, initiated a hug and a quick kiss. Usually I started the hug so I figured it was a good sign. I sent him an email today because I ended up getting some tickets to an event tomorrow. I started by thanking him for dinner and saying it was really nice to see him again. I told him it was totally last minute but wanted to see if he was free to go with me. He responded and said that he couldn't make it due to a family party. He thanked me for the offer and said to have fun. No mention of another date or a counter. At this point, do I respond and say something like- maybe we can grab dinner another time or something? I'm thinking that if he didn't counter, that was his way of telling me he wasn't interested in seeing me again? Should I press it or just wait to see if I hear from him again in the future? This one really seemed to have potential
thegreatmoose Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 So, I am once again overanalyzing. I went on a really great third date the other night. At the end of the date, he said he had a really great time, initiated a hug and a quick kiss. Usually I started the hug so I figured it was a good sign. I sent him an email today because I ended up getting some tickets to an event tomorrow. I started by thanking him for dinner and saying it was really nice to see him again. I told him it was totally last minute but wanted to see if he was free to go with me. He responded and said that he couldn't make it due to a family party. He thanked me for the offer and said to have fun. No mention of another date or a counter. At this point, do I respond and say something like- maybe we can grab dinner another time or something? I'm thinking that if he didn't counter, that was his way of telling me he wasn't interested in seeing me again? Should I press it or just wait to see if I hear from him again in the future? This one really seemed to have potential You are way overanalyzing. You'll know in the next few days based on his behavior. If you hear nothing within a few days, that's a bad sign. If he contacts you, most likely a good sign.
kizik Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 You already thanked him and said you had fun. You've done your part. I agree that it's kind of lame that he didn't ask you out for another time in response to your email. But like the above poster said, let him make a move. If he doesn't - lame-o! But a real man, who is interested, does and always will.
nomoregummybears Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I don't think there's anything to worry about. No need to press anything just yet; he was just busy. Just have fun at the event! You can talk to him later.
WTRanger Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I swear to Jesus on the cross, if I have to read another post about the "counter-date" rule/guide/theory I'm going to puke my balls through my nose. The counter-date theory causes way too much over analyzing. Not everyone does it nor does every f'ing situation call for it. Read his actions. His action was to initiate a hug and a kiss on the 3rd date. HOW CAN HE NOT BE INTERESTED IN YOU? What you are saying that despite the fact that he hugged and kissed you and he's gone on three dates with you already, you think that he's no longer interested because of an email? An email that you are completely reading the wrong way IMO. You are willing to re-read, over analyze an email over those actions?
Author skjd1220 Posted August 22, 2009 Author Posted August 22, 2009 Thanks for the responses. I'm sure I am over analayzing. Trust me, I'm hoping that I'm just reading it wrong and it doesn't mean anything. I'm just nervous about it, I think because the date seemed to go so well. I was just more wondering if I should respond to his email saying something like 'have a good weekend. hopefully we can get together again soon'. I figure that leaves the ball in his court but clearly shows interest. I also don't want to push too hard and scare him off ....so I'm wondering if waiting to see if I hear from him would be better.
caramel c Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Thanks for the responses. I'm sure I am over analayzing. Trust me, I'm hoping that I'm just reading it wrong and it doesn't mean anything. I'm just nervous about it, I think because the date seemed to go so well. I was just more wondering if I should respond to his email saying something like 'have a good weekend. hopefully we can get together again soon'. I figure that leaves the ball in his court but clearly shows interest. I also don't want to push too hard and scare him off ....so I'm wondering if waiting to see if I hear from him would be better. Trust YOURSELF! ok?
WTRanger Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I think the email response would be fine. It lets him know you are interested and yes, it does put the ball into his court. In the meantime, stop thinking so much. You'll run the risk of tanking this just because your head will get messed up with things that are not grounded in any sort of reality. If you find yourself thinking about it, make yourself do something else. I was a notorious over thinker, and I still have bouts of it here and there, but when I find myself over thinking I just do push-ups instead. I knew I had a real problem when within a few weeks I could rip through 60 plus push-ups. But it got my mind off of things. So pick something to do other than think about this so much. Don't sit and try to pick every negative aspect out of life. You'll manifest those false negatives into reality without even knowing it.
Confusedalways Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I'd shoot something quick off like 'Ah, I figured it was too short of notice! Have a great weekend and hopefully we can get together soon ' that puts the ball squarely in his court, rather than you having to wonder where it is.
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