Morgenstern Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Okay so in my first relationship, neither I or my partner had opposite sex friends, we drifted from them because we had no desire for anyone else but eachother. What im finding now in my new relationship is that im having a hard time dealing with her opposite sex friends. I know I need to grow up a bit and get over it but thats why Im posting this haha. So basically my girlfriend still talks and flirts with her ex she broke up with before me, and this one night we had a pretty bad argument and she ran to him of all people for comfort and hung out with him and saw a movie. This annoying me and bothering me a lot so I told her I dont think exes should be such a big part of someones life, especially so soon after and during the beginning of a new relationship. I just don't like it and I said I could always find someone else who thought the same way I did. So shes not talking to him anymore. Was I out of line? Her best friend is a guy and im totally cool with him and want to meet him. There was past stuff between them, not a relationship more like vacations and physically, and expensive gifts. I said as long as you arent going to florida with this guy and keeping your hands to your self i cant tell you to ditch your best friend. But he doesnt want anything to do with me. I just say what ever... And another mutual friend of ours she tried dating but it just didnt work. So I decided that for once Id like a female friend, and I found one. It was a girl I already knew and we tried dating briefing but it didnt work, but we are good friends anyway. This drives my girl friend crazy, to the point she loses some self control and a large irrational argument ensues at times. I simply point out the fact that I am not doing anything she isnt doing, and that I would like this relationship to be a two way street. She goes out to dinner every now and then, or a concert with these dudes, so why can't I grab lunch with my friend sometimes? IDK, its starting to annoy me. And the funny thing is, my friend thats a girl and my girlfriend became pretty good friends and are a bunch of chatty cathys now, but still I cant be with my friend without her when she can with hers, one of which resents me.... Shes says we both arent being normal and have big jealousy issues. I agree I get jealous but my counselor who ive talked to with about everything said shes being immature about this, and not being fair to me.
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