sinceritea Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 We went to University together, he was always over to the point where we lived together. He was there for me, wasn't the type to be all "manly" and often would choose me over his friends. He got me flowers on special days, and cook me dinner and take me out. Then summer began. His parents didn't know about me and he wouldn't tell them. We were of different religions, thus he parents wouldn't accept a girl until he was ready to get married. This bothered me and a reason for another fight. Then he wouldn't call me for days, because he was busy with work. I worked full time as well but I could still could find time to text him at least once a day. He doesn't have a car so I'm constantly driving him around. He wasn't there for me when I needed him (emotional breakdowns, etc) quoting the fact that he doesnt have a car thus he cant see me, or he had family commitments. He never asked me on dates, and I would constantly be asking him to hang out. He never wanted to talk on the phone and when we met up, he began to focus a lot more on the sex rather than conversation or dinners. I talked to him more than a zillion times about this. He tells me he's busy. I told him that he priortizes everything above me. But I care about him alot. He was probably the only guy in my entire life who showed me so much care when I was in school. Now we're moving back to school in September and I'm afraid he'll begin to chase me again once school starts since I'll be easier access. He's such a contradiction. Sweet words, caring gestures, understanding and not violent at all....but then again, he'll only make these efforts when there are no obstacles in the way, ie: distance, work, family time, etc. People tell me I should be understanding. He needs the money, his family is his top priority, he is tired at night which is why he can't call me and he doesn't have a car so he can't come see me (though he lives a bus ride away) and he isn't the strongest guy in the world, which is why when my exes tried to hook up with me, he didnt say or do anything. He still got me flowers on my birthday and spent the day with me. He still talks to me when he can (which is prob once a week) And he prioritizes his friends because he's been backstabbed by alot of other close friends before and this is the first time he's had worthwhile friends. Should I be understanding and let him back in my life, although he isn't making any effort to come into my life again....I guess that question should be phrased as to when school starts and he has the time to come back into my life.
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