Why does my ex insist on talking face to face??

[greenparrot]

Everytime my ex breaks NC and contacts me in the 3rd day, usually at midnight when Im asleep. I trully havent had the force on not answering these calls, I put my phone on vibrate or silence, however somehow today at 2 am she called me.

 

She said she missed me, and begged for me to give her a chance, us a chance. Her basic plan is to start from 0, be friends like before and take it from there to fix our relationship. I told her that I didnt want to get hurt anymore and if she trully cares for me a shred to not make me go through pain again.

 

The thing is I could go through that, I could try to recover her, I mean after 4 years its only fair. But there is a catch: her "friend". They were dating, and she has always told me that this guy is infact special to her. According to her theyre not dating now, and he asked her to get back with her, however she said no.

 

I told her I cant do it, unless she stops talking to this guy period. WHat do you guys think, does she trully want me back, and work it out? Or am I still plan B? She told me she cried yesterday, since she misses me, that how can I run my life soo smoothly without her (since I have maintained NC, she thinks Im strong).

 

Again, I have a deadline, today we are suppose to talk face to face. Is this friends thing the thing that everyone says no to, or the chance of fixing things?

[Darren09]

mate this defo sounds like shes ermm at least trying here??? but why only at night time?? I have to stress this to you! Shes left before it will happen again when another guy comes along! take this in mind and make sure u dont go back. She will hurt u again.... do you really want that?

[silic0ntoad]

Well, there really are ZERO rules when it comes to this, despite what people here will say.

 

I won't tell you whats right or wrong. What I'll say is this:

 

If you think SHE is worth it, and the RS is worth it- try it, but prepare for the worst and expect nothing.

 

If you WANT to heal and move on without the threat of being hurt, ignore her.

[revoo]

You told me on my post that our situations are similar. Well I am on vacation now, just arrived and keeping nc for lol 3 days now i think. She didnt contact me.

 

If she would i think I would jump, cuz well I care much about her, but I would be carefull. If your ex told you she wants things to start again, You have the call, and tell her that no dating other guys. And it is strange to start from 0, because you cant start from 0, because you left 0 the first time and you cant get back to that point.

 

My ex told me that we should start being friends and see where it goes, but I told her that I`m not ok with the fact that she wants to date other guys in that time. So or we start from the beginning but agree not to see others in that period, or it just cant work, because the dumped one will feel like ****.