Mimolicious Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 He is not doing it to you... you are doing it to yourself. Cut him off, find a hobby and keep it moving. You dont need the drama and all the emotional drainage that this relationship IS going to cause you.
Author rosey77 Posted August 27, 2009 Author Posted August 27, 2009 Hiya, well i told him i cant have anything to do with him. I said i dont trust him and that i dont respect a man who is so weak that he cannot get out of this so called awful relationship he is in. Well he tells me he has asked her for a divorce. he reckons she agreed the time is right. He asked me to go to queensland with him and let me listen to a message his work left him about a job he has applied for there. Geez. he is freaking out. i told him I cant get my head around this. i told him i dont believe him that he asked her for a divorce and i wont till i see the papers. But you know i cant wait around for that anyways. Now he is panicking that he will lose me. Last night he came to my house and scared the crap outa me. i didnt let him in of course. i told him to leave. but he had to speak to me he says. i caleed him this morning and told him i just cannot do it. I siad his kids will need thier dad etc etc etc. he called me later to appologise to me about everything and said he will leave me alone. but he will still let me know when the divorce is thru in case i change my mind. i really think it will be too hard. i think i should let him go. no matter how i feel. its for the best thanks everyone for your help rosey
LaGazelle Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Well done for sticking to your guns Rosey, I am sure he is starting to realise he is dealing with a woman he can't take for a ride. If he is really getting a divorce, he will either man up and follow through or move one to find another woman to play an unwitting pawn in his megalomanic me-me-me show. Best of luck with your progress forward. Keep yourself busy doing things you enjoy and that are of value to you and those who value your love.
lovely12 Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 I hear ya. I have been in the same situation. Just actually found out that I was the mistress. Yes, it is one big coaster roller ride. Don't understand that very much.
fooled once Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 Hiya, well i told him i cant have anything to do with him. I said i dont trust him and that i dont respect a man who is so weak that he cannot get out of this so called awful relationship he is in. Well he tells me he has asked her for a divorce. he reckons she agreed the time is right. He asked me to go to queensland with him and let me listen to a message his work left him about a job he has applied for there. Geez. he is freaking out. i told him I cant get my head around this. i told him i dont believe him that he asked her for a divorce and i wont till i see the papers. But you know i cant wait around for that anyways. Now he is panicking that he will lose me. Last night he came to my house and scared the crap outa me. i didnt let him in of course. i told him to leave. but he had to speak to me he says. i caleed him this morning and told him i just cannot do it. I siad his kids will need thier dad etc etc etc. he called me later to appologise to me about everything and said he will leave me alone. but he will still let me know when the divorce is thru in case i change my mind. i really think it will be too hard. i think i should let him go. no matter how i feel. its for the best thanks everyone for your help rosey Do NOT let his panicking sway you from doing what is best for YOU. If he really wanted to be with you, it wouldn't take YOU telling him to divorce for him to do it. Stand strong, grieve the relationship and then move on. Do NOT let him worm his way back into your life. YOU deserve to be #1 - not the mistress on the side.
2sunny Posted August 27, 2009 Posted August 27, 2009 great job not letting him come in! woo hoo! hard but good for you! i can guarantee you - he hasn't asked the wife for a D. come on, all of a sudden at the same time you break up - he miraculously has already asked the wife to D? if he had, he would have called you as soon as it happened. he is willing to do anything to manipulate and control you with his lies. don't even consider talking to him until he has his FINAL divorce papers in hand. THAT would mean he is serious about being divorced. think of it like this... you've waited this long to love a man... why not wait a bit longer for an AVAILABLE man - you deserve the whole package... don't settled for half a man or for his lies along the way. that would only mean your actions go along with his foolish lies.
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