Sex with an ex-husband!?

[twicebitten]

Hi everyone! I've been away from the boards for awhile (no drama ..TG!!)

 

BUT now have a serious question ... for those who have experienced sex with an ex-spouse ... or ANYONE!!

 

My ex-hubby (married 15 yrs, divorced 2 1/2 years now) is coming to town for our DD's b-day & he asked if he could stay WITH us.. I said: "Yes, sure!" We did have a bad divorce 9he cheated & moved away) but lately we've actually been treating each other as friends, for DD's sake and our own. BUT a couple weeks ago (on his b-day) he called & things got a lil sexual over the phone ... he was telling me ALL the ways I was the best he ever had, etc., etc.,!

 

We did have AMAZING sex for our entire marriage & I've been recently thinking about having a little 'tryst' while he's here since I'm not dating anyone & have been so busy lately to persue that venue!

 

I KNOW that it's probably a BAD idea to sleep with my ex, but I'd LOVE to hear from others that HAVE & what the ramifications were (if any) after ward!!??

 

 

THANK YOU!!

 

XO - Twicebitten -

[carhill]

Can you have sex with someone and feel nothing other than your own pleasure? Kinda like masturbation?

 

Considering the recent mess with the psycho ex, I guess I can understand this, but I would suggest you ask yourself 'why' and, if satisfied with that answer, proceed.

 

I was just over at my wife's (stbx) house last night and, looking at her and experiencing her personality, I can't begin to imagine wanting to have sex with her, even though it was good to amazing for me during our marriage. I just find the thought repugnant, no reflection upon her.

 

I think you're going to do this. I wish you well

[twicebitten]

Good points!! NO, I don't think I'm the type that can have sex devoid of emotion, honestly!!?

 

And YES, I think after my psycho-ex-experience I may just be needing some SANE-SEX!?? LOL!!

 

Boy, this is going to be an INTERESTING over-night-guest!! PRAY that we BOTH can abstain!!!

 

XO -TB -

[carhill]

LOL, I slept in the same bed as my wife after she moved into her new house and I couldn't imagine not abstaining. Looking back, hilarious. Yuck. Again, not her in any way, but yuck to the dynamic.

 

I'll suggest you not refrain. With completion comes revelation. With abstinence comes the invariable "what if". In retrospect, I realize, for me, there was never a 'what if', but I feel that is in your mind.

 

What if the sex is amazing? What next? Or the reverse. What if it blows up? Either is an answer. What was the question again?

[whichwayisup]

Go for it. No strings attached..Have fun and accept it for what it is..Sex, but with your ex. You know his body, what he likes, how to touch him etc..

 

Ofcourse feelings may still be there, just shield your heart.

[WTFO]

its not comfortable having sex with ex-husband realizing he had sex with someone after breaking up with me...

 

that's my point of view....

 

 

X2..but Sex is Sex. Take it when you can get it...j/k Your call.

[hopesndreams]

It's just plain old stupid. If you have a heart beating in there somewhere, you will feel like crap after.

 

But, hey, sex is sex. You that desperate?

[Enema]

Women can get sex anywhere, anytime, from a large selection of men.

 

Why choose the one who you know you can't trust and you know it could get messy with?

[boldjack]

TB, Don't do this. I did and ALL of the issues about our marriage and divorce came back with full force.

[PWSX3]

I have been separated/divorced for a year now & I wouldn't want to do it. Like someone else said all those emotions "WILL" come back.

 

It took me a long time to finally let go & even now when I see her it brings back all kinds of thoughts so I wouldn't do it.

 

If you need it that bad I'm sure there are others out there that would help you out.

[cyabye]

NO! You were divorced for a reason. He cheated and left. I would think twice about him staying in the house. Sex would be an absolute NO. Respect yourself.

 

cyabye