confusedcookie Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 so people use the word, doormat... but what does that really mean in a guy? too nice? like what? examples are appreciated!!! Link to post Share on other sites
bluewolf17 Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 A doormat takes whatever treatment he is given-regardless of if it's what he truly wants or not. A doormat does not stand up for himself. A doormat garners no respect. A doormat wears a stinky, stinky cologne..and women can smell it. Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 so people use the word, doormat... but what does that really mean in a guy? too nice? like what? examples are appreciated!!! Weak and pathetic, with no self-respect and no backbone. Link to post Share on other sites
MadDriver Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 A doormat is someone who doesn't know how to say "No". Ask the doormat for his/her time, and they'll give you. Ask them for their love and affection, and they'll give you. Ask them their last penny, their last cup of soup, or their last blanket before they're destitute, and the'll give you. Afterall, you're more important than a doormat. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Doormat = amorphous blob. Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Doormat = amorphous blob. http://weblog.greenpeace.org/oceandefenders/archive/blobfish.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 http://weblog.greenpeace.org/oceandefenders/archive/blobfish.jpg Thanks for the perfect depiction! Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Thanks for the perfect depiction! I know you think I'm hot ^^ But the blobfish has even more doormat features. From wikipedia: To remain buoyant, the flesh of the blobfish is primarily a gelatinous mass with a density slightly less than water; this allows the fish to float above the sea floor without expending energy on swimming. The relative lack of muscle is not a disadvantage as it primarily swallows edible matter that floats by in front of it. It can be caught by bottom trawling with nets. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 I know you think I'm hot ^^ What woman can resist someone who shows the remains of breakfast, lunch and dinner to her, jaws wide open? But the blobfish has even more doormat features. From wikipedia: To remain buoyant, the flesh of the blobfish is primarily a gelatinous mass with a density slightly less than water; this allows the fish to float above the sea floor without expending energy on swimming. The relative lack of muscle is not a disadvantage as it primarily swallows edible matter that floats by in front of it. It can be caught by bottom trawling with nets.I bolded one more similarity. It takes less energy to go with the flow, than to push back, when your boundaries have been exceeded, if you have boundaries at all. Link to post Share on other sites
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 What woman can resist someone who shows the remains of breakfast, lunch and dinner to her, jaws wide open? I bolded one more similarity. It takes less energy to go with the flow, than to push back, when your boundaries have been exceeded, if you have boundaries at all. Your mind makes me horny. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 A doormat will also just give in. They don't voice their opinions. I dated a guy like this once.. Every time I'd ask him what he wanted to do, instead of telling me what he wanted to do, he'd just say "whatever you'd like". Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Your mind makes me horny. You're oh so lance-romance! Now a doormat would be highly offended with this kind of exchange, since it would hurt his feelings. I think I'll add overly-sensitive to the traits of a doormat. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 Don't forget avoiding conflict. Any kind. Even a civilized conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confusedcookie Posted August 22, 2009 Author Share Posted August 22, 2009 So would dating a doormat be good? since they give in to your every request and spoil you? but would the having no direction and opinion drive you insane? Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 A doormat is somebody who allows themselves to be used and abused. When they are mistreated or betrayed they blame themselves instead of kicking the person who mistreated them to the curb. Dating a doormat would not be good for you since a good portion of a woman's attraction to a man is based on respect and no woman respects a doormat. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 So would dating a doormat be good? since they give in to your every request and spoil you? but would the having no direction and opinion drive you insane? Ask yourself if you really want to date someone who has no self respect, no back bone, no opinion, no nothing. And it's not really being spoiled. They aren't doing it for you, they are doing it because they don't want to speak up. Link to post Share on other sites
loveslife Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Ask yourself if you really want to date someone who has no self respect, no back bone, no opinion, no nothing. And it's not really being spoiled. They aren't doing it for you, they are doing it because they don't want to speak up. Along these same lines, I think doormats often end up being passive-agressive. They might get mad but wouldn't tell you why or be open in their communication. IME, the type of person who likes being with a doormat is someone who wants someone they can control. The doormat dater is often someone who does not really respect themselves and therefore doesn't know how to be with someone in a respectful and equal partnership. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Along these same lines, I think doormats often end up being passive-agressive. They might get mad but wouldn't tell you why or be open in their communication. IME, the type of person who likes being with a doormat is someone who wants someone they can control. The doormat dater is often someone who does not really respect themselves and therefore doesn't know how to be with someone in a respectful and equal partnership. Very good point! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 so people use the word, doormat... but what does that really mean in a guy? too nice? like what? examples are appreciated!!! Another favorite subject of mine: Door mat: One who does "nice" things for others to gain their love and approval. It's men who give up their self-respect and integrity to get sex, love, etc. It's men who can't stand up for themselves, who get walked over. Men who are needy/clingy/whiny kind of guys who you tend to make you feel sorry for them. The world hates them. They think they are nice, but everything nice they do is meant to manipulate people to get what they want. They aren't men at all. They are little, insecure boys trapped in a man's body. There's a book called "No More Mr Nice Guy" (Glover) which explains this behavior in great detail -- and how to fix it. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 I used to confused 'nice guy' with 'doormat' - I realize now they are very different. Link to post Share on other sites
loveslife Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 I used to confused 'nice guy' with 'doormat' - I realize now they are very different. I've decided that instead of a "nice guy" I'd like a "good man." Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 Along these same lines, I think doormats often end up being passive-agressive. They might get mad but wouldn't tell you why or be open in their communication.PAs are the worst, not that they're all doormats, although some can be this way. Communication turns into an exercise in frustration. Might as well hit your head against a brick wall, for all the good it does! At least if you hit your head against a brick wall, you might benefit if you knock yourself unconscious! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted August 22, 2009 Share Posted August 22, 2009 I used to confused 'nice guy' with 'doormat' - I realize now they are very different. A GOOD man is what you're thinking of when you say "nice guy". A door mat is almost synonymous with nice guy because what their doing isn't really being nice, but through "nice" actions, manipulating and using guilt to get what they want out of people. Link to post Share on other sites
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