If theyre going to VEGAS without you and NOT being flirty ARE THEY JUST NOT THAT INTO

[Nagini]

No clue. I don't see any ads

 

It's easy to be too busy for a relationship. In that case, better not to dabble. Takes your focus away from business, not to mention doesn't give adequate perspective and attention to someone else who makes the time for a relationship a priority. To me, this is an important part of compatibility.

 

 

The irony is is that guy 2 really does spend a lot of time contacting me via FB during work hours during the week.

And he emailed me today 3 times already.

Yikes. Its distracting.

Oh and he called me a pet name.

See he has money , no mortgage, no loans and I dont think he understands Im literally about to jump out of my skin over money stress.

At least guy 1 totally understands being in dire straits.

 

k back to working. no fb, no loveshack.

ill check back here in 2-3 weeks and update everyone.

 

 

thanks for the input !

[Pink Cupcakes]

That is a great idea - focus on other things in your life and ignore the guys and let them do their thing for a while. They will wonder "What the heck, why isn't she answering my facebook message"....let them wonder. Drive them crazy, they'll be at your doorstep and you'll have your pick of the two.

[Nagini]

That is a great idea - focus on other things in your life and ignore the guys and let them do their thing for a while. They will wonder "What the heck, why isn't she answering my facebook message"....let them wonder. Drive them crazy, they'll be at your doorstep and you'll have your pick of the two.

 

 

Yes, exactly.

And I think in some ways facebook can be bad for my image.

I share so much on there and that it makes me a totally open book.

Im going to to stop with all the nonstop updates.

[Nagini]

Well once again facebook rears its ugly head

2 mutual friends of ours just commented to me that ldr guy has been tagged in pics with his friends over the weekend.

he looks so bright eyed, happy and smiling.

and he isnt blinking or squinty.

 

in the 30 photos i took with us together he looked squinty or frowning or miserable.

our friends had briefly seen those photos and are now saying that he MUSTve done that on purpose.

 

i have to agree

(and apparently 30 peopl eon yahoo answers agree with me (i post comparison shots)

 

his birthday is on sunday an di had planned to go see him

 

now idk.

[carhill]

Oh, for the love of God .....

[Nagini]

Oh, for the love of God .....

 

 

Our mutual friends are th eones who brought the subject up. lol

[Nagini]

That is a great idea - focus on other things in your life and ignore the guys and let them do their thing for a while. They will wonder "What the heck, why isn't she answering my facebook message"....let them wonder. Drive them crazy, they'll be at your doorstep and you'll have your pick of the two.

 

 

So Vegas called me last night while still in Vegas and then called me tonight when he got home.

He seemed really happy and cheerful until I mentioned LDR guy an dgave him a heads up that ldr guy and another ex bf from last year were having a p1ssing match on my facebook wall. (other ex asked if i need a date to a movie and ldr guy kind of insulted him and then they traded barbs)

 

he said why am i still thinking about ldr guy because he is a 'tool' and why is my other ex preoccupied with me and he sounds crass.

 

he then said he was going to unpack.

 

was this bad to mention them ?

why has he called me 5 times in last 6 days ?

[carhill]

was this bad to mention them ?

why has he called me 5 times in last 6 days ?

 

If you don't know the answers to these questions, I can't help you

 

It's interesting how we form impressions of people based on projections of ourselves. Think about Vegas guy for awhile and you'll see what I mean.

 

IMO, you're now running the risk of Vegas guy finding your situation childish and hence losing interest. His comments about the other guys underscore this. I'd firm things up and decide if he's of interest to you and clarify your direction. If he's a potential, proceed. If not, move on. Regardless, Facebook drama is unbecoming of a lady.

[silverfish]

I agree. The Vegas guy has a child, he doesn't need another one.

 

Sorry if it sounds harsh, but it sounds like you enjoy the attention & drama more than anything else. If you have to *think* that much about who you want to be with then it's probably neither of them.

[Nagini]

I agree. The Vegas guy has a child, he doesn't need another one.

 

Sorry if it sounds harsh, but it sounds like you enjoy the attention & drama more than anything else. If you have to *think* that much about who you want to be with then it's probably neither of them.

 

No, I alerted him about what is on my wall because he had a problem with me having any male friends. I was defusing his possible jealousy beforehand.

[silverfish]

If you wanted to diffuse his jealousy you could just have deleted the posts on your wall.

I've deleted stuff that people have written so as not to hurt the feelings of other people who might see it. It's no big deal...and less drama

[Nagini]

Vegas got back together with his wife i found out.

he lied about ever being divorced.

he took her to vegas (thank you facebook wall posts by his mom)

 

Im going to see ldr all weekend.

 

cheers, ciao and life goes on.

[Pink Cupcakes]

Oh. Wow. Guess that eliminates Las Vegas guy. I didn't have a good feeling about him from what you described anyway, when he broke it off before because his exwife was jealous. Wow, what a cheating loser. I think he wouldn't have even let you know that he was with his wife, he would have kept on wanting to see you on the side without either of you knowing!

Glad you got out of this now.

Now this LDR guy really needs to step it up, however.

[Nagini]

Oh. Wow. Guess that eliminates Las Vegas guy. I didn't have a good feeling about him from what you described anyway, when he broke it off before because his exwife was jealous. Wow, what a cheating loser. I think he wouldn't have even let you know that he was with his wife, he would have kept on wanting to see you on the side without either of you knowing!

Glad you got out of this now.

Now this LDR guy really needs to step it up, however.

 

 

It just got worse.

I went out for a meeting with his biz partner of 12 years last evening

 

he's offering me a great sales job because i have specific knowledge of the industry he's selling too (its a spe side biz that my 'vegas' exbf is NOT a part of)

anyway we finally started talking about my ex

 

WHOA BOY

after several drinks his biz partner spilled the beans

 

he called my ex a rapist/swindler/con guy

 

i was stupid and was so shocked that i confronted my exbf

BUT i told him to promise me he wouldnt tell his biz partner what i was going to reveal

 

the second i said 'rapist'

my ex hung up AND called his biz partner

 

very very bad situation

 

 

and his biz partner told me he referred to me as a purely sexual sex toy.

 

>:<

 

that he claimed i was just some overly erotic chick and that we never talked or did anything else

 

he is so evil.