Odyssey Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 For those who don't know my situation: "Boy meets new girl at work. Boy dates smitten girl for 3 months. Officially bf-gf for happy 6 months. gf gives bf immature NC. (gf goes out with her abusive ex). gf dumps bf! Company also dumps boy. Boy goes NC with total conviction for 4 months". Today my ex bumps into me (i know...i should ran like hell) and continued to walked with me. She said that she'd missed me, asked how i was doing etc. (so far so cliche, right)? Then she said that her abusive ex broke up with her and wondered if we can hang out as friends. I replied with an unconvincing no and drove out of there. Came home and she's been ringing me like crazy and left txt: "please call me"; "can we meet"; "i think of you"; "stop ignoring me"; "I know you're upset, lets work it out"... (time to get a new phone me thinks) After my initial panic attack earlier, reality kicked in and I know she's just after a temporary emotional safety blanket, right? She doesn't really want me 'cause she never even said sorry. Bitch! I'm gonna keep NC, as tempting it is to call her. too much pain right now. Question: Has anyone had their ex come back like this? I think begging is the right word here.
NopeNah Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Yes!! She's going to use you! If her ex were to come back tomorrow whats to say she wouldn't just up and leave like before? Once the trust is gone it very seldom returns. I'm dealing with this now and it's torture! I'm thinking about dumping my "ex" tonight because I no longer trust her. "Freedom from fear"... where's she at? Who's she with?What's she doing? Is she still talking to him when i'm not around?ect...it sucks!!
CaliGuy Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Today my ex bumps into me (i know...i should ran like hell) and continued to walked with me. She said that she'd missed me, asked how i was doing etc. (so far so cliche, right)? Then she said that her abusive ex broke up with her and wondered if we can hang out as friends. I replied with an unconvincing no and drove out of there. Came home and she's been ringing me like crazy and left txt: "please call me"; "can we meet"; "i think of you"; "stop ignoring me"; "I know you're upset, lets work it out"... (time to get a new phone me thinks) After my initial panic attack earlier, reality kicked in and I know she's just after a temporary emotional safety blanket, right? She doesn't really want me 'cause she never even said sorry. Bitch! I'm gonna keep NC, as tempting it is to call her. too much pain right now. Question: Has anyone had their ex come back like this? I think begging is the right word here. You're her "port in a storm"... She should have thought about this before she dumped you. She went back to the abusive ex because she loves the drama. Because you denied her, now she's created some "new" drama between her and you. If you take her back, the drama goes away, she gets bored and either goes back to her abusive ex or finds another guy to create new drama with. She's not beating down your door yet. You're doing all the right things by saying no, by not replying, etc. If you hold firm to NC and she gives up after a week or so, you know she was full of it. If she SHOWS UP AT YOUR DOOR in a few weeks, apologizing (notice she hasn't done that yet?) and says she made a huge mistake, then and ONLY then can you CONSIDER taking her back. I wouldn't though. She's a drama queen.
Recommended Posts