Kamille Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 A few years ago this friend asked me out while we were hanging out with a bunch of friends at a bar. He then proceeded to get himself drunk (fair enough), kindly offered to walk me home (after I told him he could walk me home but to not expect anything to happen) then asking to come in (to go to the bathroom - again, I told him nothing would happen) to finally try and hit on me, not taking no for an answer until I had to kick him out. His excuse? "Why did you invite me in if you didn't want anything to happen?" my answer "I didn't invite you in, you asked to go to the bathroom". Needless to say, he never followed up on the date plans, which was just as well since I wasn't likely to have gone ahead with them myself. He was a friend before all this, but we haven't really been on speaking terms since. All we've exchanged the last few times we were at the same parties was a curt hello. He sent me a friend request on Facebook. I don't know what to do. I used to think he was cute and a lot of my friends still think we would make a great couple. I am tempted to add him just to let bygones be bygones. At the same time, I had firmly squared him in the 'jerk' category. But we have a lot of friends in common and do end up hanging out together often enough. Basically, I was very happy with the status quo and this friend request, which isn't much really, is throwing away that equilibrium. What would you do?
Thaddeus Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 His error was a few years ago. Cut the dude some slack. By your own admission, you were both drunk when the so-called 'infraction' occurred. Let bygones be bygones.
Vet Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 His behavior sounds like he's a creep in the date-rapey sort of vein, but then again, friending someone on Facebook means very little, one way or the other. If he freaks out over you not friending him and causes drama because of it, it'll be obvious to you (and your circle of friends) that he's a bit unstable. If you friend him and he takes it as an opportunity to start hitting on you again, let him know that that door's not open. If he persists, remove him.
Hkizzle Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Yeah, what's the harm in being a friend? I wouldn't consider him as dating material though. The stroy cracked me up though. I remember this one time when I asked to go to the toilet to get it and my evil plan actually worked. So lame, haha.
xra Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Just friend him. It means nothing, and if he starts being a creep on FB as well, unfriending him is a click of a button.
dreamergrl Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 K - if you do accept the request you can always set restrictions for him on there.... Perhaps this he wants to apologize. Maybe not. But it was a few years ago. I'd give it a chance, and if he screws up, that's it game over.
Author Kamille Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Okay, bygones will be bygones then. I want to clear one thing: he was drunk. I wasn't. Aaah, forgiveness does feel good.
Vet Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 The stroy cracked me up though. I remember this one time when I asked to go to the toilet to get it and my evil plan actually worked. So lame, haha. Riiiiiiiico Suave.
Hkizzle Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Riiiiiiiico Suave. You going to stalk me, and leghump me across this forum every time I post now? NO!!!! Leave me alone you leghumper!
Author Kamille Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 goodness! i think I was deluding myself. Just added him. turns out he just joined FB. Maybe the invite was one of those automatic ones that FB sends to your entire email lists (although I don't recall ever sending him an email). ah well. Funny.
Art_Critic Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Ask yourself what good will come of accepting his friend request and you have your answer. 10-1 the guy asks you out... by the way.. you can forgive someone and still not have to accept their FB friend request and still be their friend.
Vet Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 You going to stalk me, and leghump me across this forum every time I post now? NO!!!! Leave me alone you leghumper! Only when you post drivel... so yeah, probably. There's ignore functionality for a reason, if it really bothers you so much.
Hkizzle Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Only when you post drivel... so yeah, probably. There's ignore functionality for a reason, if it really bothers you so much. Again you chasing me around on two threads now (and everyone can see it) shows you're either the most immature guy on this forum, or you're my personal stalker/leghumper. It doesn't matter what your opinions are, your actions show you're pretty unstable.
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