WalkInThePark Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 My MM is half a year older than myself. His W half a year older than him (so a year older than me). I do take better care of myself than her though, at least that is what he told me. We are all in our forties. The younger woman thing becomes a problem is she still wants kids. A lot of guys who have gone through a divorce and have had all the custody discussion are not interested in starting a family again. I personally am totally not into older guys. I want someone my age. Which seems to be more and more difficult if you are in your forties. So many guys my age want a younger woman, even though they would absolutely not have had any problem with a woman their age when they were younger. 5 to 7 years older is the absolute maximum for me. I don't want to be stuck with a 75-year old when I am only 60 myself.
Meaplus3 Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 When I had my ea with a MM as a MW, he was 5 years my senior. I don't consider that a big age gap at all. Mea:)
Adunaphel Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 First time I was involved in an affair, MM was 20 years older. His W was 10 years younger than him. He was the typical guy who was after the ego boost of having sex with someone younger. I have no doubt that had he had the chance of having sex with an underage girl, he would not have given it a second thought. Second time, the age gap is 14 years. His W is one year older than him - and she is very, very, pretty. She also looks a lot younger! I just saw her in some pictures but I was impressed. I think that even if he is not unhappy to be with a younger woman, he'd rather the age gap were smaller. I'd rather he was younger, too! But you can't have everything.
OWoman Posted August 23, 2009 Posted August 23, 2009 Maybe its just to do with maturity, or rather the lack of it. Perhaps, in some cases. My H's xW was several years older than him, and seduced him when he was still a child (and conveniently didn't tell him she was M at the time). These days she'd probably be locked up for that - but back then, the "Mrs Robinson" syndrome was supposed to be every young guy's fantasy, so some people thought he was lucky .
jasminetea Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 Perhaps, in some cases. My H's xW was several years older than him, and seduced him when he was still a child (and conveniently didn't tell him she was M at the time). These days she'd probably be locked up for that - but back then, the "Mrs Robinson" syndrome was supposed to be every young guy's fantasy, so some people thought he was lucky . I'm sure he thought he was lucky at the time too. But really it proves my point - obviously they were both immature.
NoIDidn't Posted August 24, 2009 Posted August 24, 2009 But really it proves my point - obviously they were both immature. I agree. My post about the book was ignored, but its covered in the book. My only issue with the book is that it makes it look like its only a midlife crisis issue. I believe that MLC do exist, but that a person's maturity level and ability to roll with the punches that life throws them will keep them out of this situation.
skylarblue Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Quote: Originally Posted by lkjh Not a midlife crisis, Men like younger good looking girls and girls seem to go for older guys. I agree. I'm in my 20's, MM in his 50's. Personally, I've always and only been attracted to older guys at least 25yrs my senior.
Fallen Angel Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 I am 38, my MM is 45. Same age difference as between myself and my xH, as x is also 45 (for me seven or eight years difference seems to be what I like). MMs W is 46.
tami-chan Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 My stbxh and xom/mm were much older than me. I am in my mid-thirties but when I was younger I was attracted to men who were already accomplished-men who have "arrived', so to speak. These days I find I am still attractive to older men-I do not know if unconsciously I give out that vibe. I am petite and do not look my age. When older men find out my age, they seem dismayed( maybe they wish I was in my 20s?). So I wish older men will post on why many older men like younger women (or at least, younger looking). That said, I know right now ,I am more aware of men my age(or at least, in the same generation lol).
NowhereToHide Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Seems like a lot of / the majority of Affairs are older married men with younger single women. I know that is how it was in my case. He was 17 years older than me. Is this a mid-life crisis type of thing? Those that have been involved in an affair, care to share age differences? Exactly the same age.
howcouldInotknow Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 Quote: Originally Posted by lkjh Not a midlife crisis, Men like younger good looking girls and girls seem to go for older guys. I agree. I'm in my 20's, MM in his 50's. Personally, I've always and only been attracted to older guys at least 25yrs my senior. sounds like me
NowhereToHide Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 The trend is so old, there is a book about it. Its called Married Man - Single Woman Syndrome. Its generally the case that the single woman is much younger than the MM and that the MM is reliving the part of his life that he probably didn't get to live as fully as he wanted to. Maybe the MM watched the younger women, when he was their age, dating older guys and waited for the day that he could do it himself when he finally had some money, power, and status to use to get their attention. I hear something similar to this from younger guys a lot. It is interesting to see, though. Interesting. While my xAP and I are the same age, I was the "girl he couldn't get in high school" -- literally. I was popular, he was "the nerd".
frannie Posted October 11, 2009 Posted October 11, 2009 My MM is 8 months older than I am. His wife is younger, but I don't know how much younger.
mybrowneyedgirl Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Hes much much older. Roughly 20yrs. Never noticed it though. His kids are only 5-6 years older than mine. And for some reason it ended up being a plus...he was amazing in bed....had to be from all of the years of "practice"
desertmoon Posted October 12, 2009 Posted October 12, 2009 Hes much much older. Roughly 20yrs. Never noticed it though. His kids are only 5-6 years older than mine. And for some reason it ended up being a plus...he was amazing in bed....had to be from all of the years of "practice" All that practice and a whole lot more baggage.... <sigh>.....
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