shortydime Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Okay ive been dating this guy for 1 yr&&9months. We always been off and on. At the beginning it was me breakin up with him whever i got upset. but when it hit the year it was him breaking up with me because of my insecurities and jealousy problems. Everytime we got back together it was because i would beg him a little and always call him. He told me he was tired of always arguring. So i had stopped with my insecurities and jealousy(well at least i wasnt letting him know,unless it really really bothered me)So two days ago he broke up with because i Found out he had a Myspace; at the beginning of the relationship we're agreed to delete our pages. so when i confronted him about it he was denying it. even though there wasnt no picture of him but he had only 2 friends but one of his friend was a girl he use to like back in junior high school/h.s..so i was sure it was him cause of her..And yes it did have his name and his bday..okay wen i confroned him about it he was denyin it..then he was said with my insercuries im pushin him away..and he broke up wit me sayin he doesnt wanna be wit me nomore. i told him all i ever tried t do is make him&us happy and he said well he aint happy.. I know hes going through alot right now because he lost his job and he has no money to bay his bills and is car is the shop and cant take it out till he get the money. Now im wondering if i should call him or not?plz help any advice would be great
DustySaltus Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 How did you "find out" about his myspace page? Why don't you trust him?
Author shortydime Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 because i went to his cousin myspace page which is not private and i went to his myspace friends and saw my boyfriend's name so i clicked on it and i was sure it was his. I always had a problem with trusting guys but i guess i lost trust for him about 1 year ago when he lied to me telling me some girl was his cousin when she was nothing related to him. And he was always at her house with his cousin because she related to his cousin but not to him. And then he about 3 months ago he started locking his phone and i found out he was talking to a girl but i asked the girl about it and she told me supposedly there were just friend. i dont think he talk to her anymore cause i told him if hes gonna continuin talking to her than imma start talking guys.
DustySaltus Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Well I can assure you at this point he is talking to other girls and you should be talking to other guys. If you read my old posts I was engaged to someone who had some serious trust issues. She would check my phone, email and listen in on my conversations. After a while it didn't matter what I did because she didn't believe me. Why be with someone if they don't have trust in you? Attraction is great, good conversation is great, common interests are great but if you don't learn to trust someone you will NEVER be able to enjoy those things. Give him his space and think about what you could've done to make yourself a better person down the line. You have to approach this breakup as if you will not get back together and learn from it for the next one.
Author shortydime Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Thanks. Hes the same way when it comes to me like he will go thru my phone and ask me if theres any new number. During the weekend he called me around 4am i missed his call and he send me a text saying" "now call me a dick for thinking wrong i havent spoken to you since 11pm and u havent bother callin me or texting me. well im home not like if you care.
westrock Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 During the weekend he called me around 4am i missed his call and he send me a text saying" "now call me a dick for thinking wrong i havent spoken to you since 11pm and u havent bother callin me or texting me. well im home not like if you care. How old is this guy? Sounds passive aggressive and very immature.
Author shortydime Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 How long should i wait for his call after i start to call??
silic0ntoad Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Who initiated the break up? I would say don't speak to him at all. It's not worth it. You'll just end up hurt. If you dumped him and want HIM back, you have to show him you can trust him.
Author shortydime Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 he broke up with me but we're always on and off..normally we get back together cuz i end up calling him and begging. but i havent called him since he broke up with me
patcha Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 With the on and off, it sounds like you two have been trying to fix it. Why keep trying the same things over and over again, when it's obviously not working? Take a break from each other and take time to grow as individuals. Maybe you guys will be ready for each other later on. But right now, it really sounds forced. And it'll just continue to be off and on.
Author shortydime Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 yeah its really hard. im trying not to even think about him. im trying to "have a good time" but i can't. Normally we back together together the same day we break up but like i said before it cause im the one whose always crawling back to him. Everyone is telling me if he really loves me he will call but im just scare thats he not goin to call because hes tired of us argurin..
northstar1 Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 im the one whose always crawling back to him,,,,,,,,,, at some point you have to realize it's broken and it's time to move on with your life this relationship sounds like too much drama.
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