phineas Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 So, the wife is now going to psyihcal therepy because of a past back injury & wanted to know how long i'd keep her on my health insurance. I told her until we are divorced. This is a HUGE bargaining chip in my favor if she tries to pull anything. I am extreamly lucky in that my health insurance at work is barely a ding in my paycheck reguardless of how many people I have on it. Her work place, not so much. also, because her back is hurting her lately I have been taking the kids more because it hurts her to lift the 1yr old. On a side note my friend who's wife I suspect knew all about my wifes affair & kept it from my friend is now living around the corner from me as of just the other day. I havn't had a chance to talk to him but he's now seperated also. I can't help but wonder if there is a connection somewhere. Other than that my oldest is adapting well to living in two places. I'm hooking him up with his own little TV & video player for his room at my wifes apartment & we have a large family birthday party for him & his brother this weekend. He's 3 his brother 1. Should be a good time for them. For those people that wound up getting divorced, at what point did the soon to be ex wife make it uglier than it had to be? Mine is very amicable as I stated but I also think she believes I will eventually take her back. She acts like she didn't spend most of our marriage cheating on me & still talks to me like were buddy buddy. I just do & say what I need to to make her leave & not give her an excuse to start an argument. LOL!
LisaUk Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 My situation was a bit different as you know, not married, but we did have to get a legal seperation agreement as we had joint assets. My ex got a bit nasty within 3 days of the legals. Then backed off after I made it clear that I WOULD go to court if I had to. He knew he couldn't win as the law was very clear, he just didn't want to get found out for moving money from a joint account to a sole account 1 month before he left, without my knowledge! He fessed up in the end and then he backed down. Don't think he wanted that information plus full finacial disclosure dragged through a court, he works for in corproate banking in the city, probably would have been dismissed from his job! My advice to you Phin, is stay calm, like you have been and try and push the legal stuff through from yur end as quickly as possible, so this whole nightmare can be over for you and you can get on with your life.
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