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Yeah I know the show; not near as good as the DU.

 

It wouldn't be funny if 'The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air' was anything but horrible, horrible 90ies TV. Still, everybody knows the intro :)

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hi all

There's this guy who works in this shop i go into,and he seems like a really cool guy,he's always chatty,friendly and we even had a laugh over my purchase i wanted his opinion on,he's definitely someone i would like to get to know more......problem is im way to shy to tell him that. The shop is a very unique and creative gift shop so i thought maybe doing something creative,like writing a note or something, help me lol

thanks x

 

Don't put so much pressure on yourself.

 

I like the "creative" environment, and I think you should give yourself the benefit of your logical, sensible mind emboldening your "way too shy" trait.

 

Resolve at some point to just DARE yourself to RISK making your interest clear. Take the CHANCE... and he will admire you SO MUCH for merely having done so, whether it can work-out or not.

 

What if you did something school-girlish like bake him some cookies, and put them in a box/container with contact info for you (even a mere e-mail address would suffice), and then pull them out of your bag when you're finished shopping, and announce:

 

 

"these are for you" before spinning on your heels and walking out the door with a smile on your face (and a *wink* in his direction perhaps).

 

 

(then go three doors down the street, and around a corner, and laugh at yourself) (it's even better if you bring a pimply-faced teenager with braces with whom you can laugh more heartily)

 

Later that night/week, you will be able to give yourself SO MUCH CREDIT for having been so bold, and so sincere... and taken a step toward getting past your shy ways!!

 

Good luck!

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Don't put so much pressure on yourself.

 

I like the "creative" environment, and I think you should give yourself the benefit of your logical, sensible mind emboldening your "way too shy" trait.

 

Resolve at some point to just DARE yourself to RISK making your interest clear. Take the CHANCE... and he will admire you SO MUCH for merely having done so, whether it can work-out or not.

 

What if you did something school-girlish like bake him some cookies, and put them in a box/container with contact info for you (even a mere e-mail address would suffice), and then pull them out of your bag when you're finished shopping, and announce:

 

 

"these are for you" before spinning on your heels and walking out the door with a smile on your face (and a *wink* in his direction perhaps).

 

 

(then go three doors down the street, and around a corner, and laugh at yourself) (it's even better if you bring a pimply-faced teenager with braces with whom you can laugh more heartily)

 

Later that night/week, you will be able to give yourself SO MUCH CREDIT for having been so bold, and so sincere... and taken a step toward getting past your shy ways!!

 

Good luck!

 

Quite a big production for a possible rejection.

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well i have read everyone's input and I want to say thank you as I have gotten a clearer insight of what I should do,and your right what is the worst that can happen,he can either say yes or no and at least i will know and can get past it,so next time he is in there i will take the plunge and ask if he would like to hang out :love:

 

wish me luck and ill tell you what happens x

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Don't put so much pressure on yourself.

 

I like the "creative" environment, and I think you should give yourself the benefit of your logical, sensible mind emboldening your "way too shy" trait.

 

Resolve at some point to just DARE yourself to RISK making your interest clear. Take the CHANCE... and he will admire you SO MUCH for merely having done so, whether it can work-out or not.

 

What if you did something school-girlish like bake him some cookies, and put them in a box/container with contact info for you (even a mere e-mail address would suffice), and then pull them out of your bag when you're finished shopping, and announce:

 

"these are for you" before spinning on your heels and walking out the door with a smile on your face (and a *wink* in his direction perhaps).

 

(then go three doors down the street, and around a corner, and laugh at yourself) (it's even better if you bring a pimply-faced teenager with braces with whom you can laugh more heartily)

 

Later that night/week, you will be able to give yourself SO MUCH CREDIT for having been so bold, and so sincere... and taken a step toward getting past your shy ways!!

 

Good luck!

 

This is why you are single, SincereOnlineGuy.

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wish me luck and ill tell you what happens x

 

Good luck, curly!

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hey guys

well i took the plunge and went into the shop and asked him if he wanted to hang out sometime as friends, He was very sweet and friendly about it and said it was lovely thing to do and how he was flattered and it must of taken some courage to to ask him but sadly he said he's in a relationship and that he didnt feel it would be fair to become friends,i dont get that part as you can have friends of the opposite sex,but anyway that is that :rolleyes: im quite proud of myself because i wa soooo nervous and i dont regret it:D

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hey guys

well i took the plunge and went into the shop and asked him if he wanted to hang out sometime as friends, He was very sweet and friendly about it and said it was lovely thing to do and how he was flattered and it must of taken some courage to to ask him but sadly he said he's in a relationship and that he didnt feel it would be fair to become friends,i dont get that part as you can have friends of the opposite sex,but anyway that is that :rolleyes: im quite proud of myself because i wa soooo nervous and i dont regret it:D

 

 

Perhaps he sensed that you like him and didn't think it appropriate to lead you on. That was quite an honorable thing to do, being fair to you and his girlfriend.

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hey guys

well i took the plunge and went into the shop and asked him if he wanted to hang out sometime as friends, He was very sweet and friendly about it and said it was lovely thing to do and how he was flattered and it must of taken some courage to to ask him but sadly he said he's in a relationship and that he didnt feel it would be fair to become friends,i dont get that part as you can have friends of the opposite sex,but anyway that is that :rolleyes: im quite proud of myself because i wa soooo nervous and i dont regret it:D

 

 

Wow, that is exactly the **experience** that is going to do you wonders. Because youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu did it. You boldly expressed your interest, and his detailed answer assures that you need not go home and decide it was your hair color or that mole on your arm that did you in.

 

I love how proud of yourself you sound, and you really, really should be...

 

After a few (hundred?) more posts here at LoveShack, you will feel like you can do ANYTHING !!!

 

I like the vibe you are sending with this post.

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Never ask a guy out.

If he wants you he will approach you. A guy will move mountains for a chick he wants to get with.

End of story.

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Never ask a guy out.

If he wants you he will approach you. A guy will move mountains for a chick he wants to get with.

End of story.

 

 

As you see here ladies and gentlemen..here is another example of a girl who expects a man to come to her and there is no way she will chanse anyone no matter how much she likes someone.

 

I dont get why girls cant and wont ask guys out.

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As you see here ladies and gentlemen..here is another example of a girl who expects a man to come to her and there is no way she will chanse anyone no matter how much she likes someone.

 

I dont get why girls cant and wont ask guys out.

 

With all due respet, you don't really have to get it. You can do whatever you want. It's not that we EXPECT a guy to come up to us, its that they DO and they WILL, and that is what we prefer. We know that if he wants to ask us out, he will do it. We want those types of guys. We also know that we CAN ask them out if we want to, but we don't want to.

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Never ask a guy out.

If he wants you he will approach you. A guy will move mountains for a chick he wants to get with.

End of story.

 

Amen, I say.

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