curly_locks85 Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 hi all There's this guy who works in this shop i go into,and he seems like a really cool guy,he's always chatty,friendly and we even had a laugh over my purchase i wanted his opinion on,he's definitely someone i would like to get to know more......problem is im way to shy to tell him that. The shop is a very unique and creative gift shop so i thought maybe doing something creative,like writing a note or something, help me lol thanks x
Vet Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Just ask him out already. He may feel it is unprofessional to ask out customers. When he gives you the receipt to sign, write your phone number down on it, and tell him to give you a call. Very easy, and quite the turn-on if I may say so.
boogieboy Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 How would like to be asked for your number if you were behind the register?
caramel c Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 If he likes you he will ask you out. If he likes you but its inappropriate then he won't ask you out. Either way, you'll know if he wants to AND is ok with going out with you by whether he asks you or not.
Thaddeus Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 If he likes you he will ask you out. If he likes you but its inappropriate then he won't ask you out. Either way, you'll know if he wants to AND is ok with going out with you by whether he asks you or not.So the OP should just wait around passively, expect the guy to read her mind so she doesn't have to take any initiative? Bollocks to that. OP, just do it. Next time you see him, suggest that you meet for coffee (or your beverage of choice) after hours. Do it within three seconds of seeing him, otherwise you'll end up talking yourself out of it. Yes, it's nerve-rattling. Yes, it's uncomfortable. Yes, it's difficult. Do it anyway. He may say yes, he may say no. Either way, you'll have your answer. Good luck!
caramel c Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 So the OP should just wait around passively, expect the guy to read her mind so she doesn't have to take any initiative? Bollocks to that. OP, just do it. Next time you see him, suggest that you meet for coffee (or your beverage of choice) after hours. Do it within three seconds of seeing him, otherwise you'll end up talking yourself out of it. Yes, it's nerve-rattling. Yes, it's uncomfortable. Yes, it's difficult. Do it anyway. He may say yes, he may say no. Either way, you'll have your answer. Good luck! No, I don't look at it that way. If I was interested in a guy who didn't ask me out then I simply would conclude that he wasn't interested for some reason. I would not think of waiting or expecting a guy to read my mind at all. I wouldn't consider it a missed opportunity, either. It's raining men.
Thaddeus Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 OK, so the OP has a choice. She can wait and wonder, or she can take initiative and get an answer pretty much right away. Which makes more sense? Seriously...
Vet Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 No, I don't look at it that way. If I was interested in a guy who didn't ask me out then I simply would conclude that he wasn't interested for some reason. I would not think of waiting or expecting a guy to read my mind at all. I wouldn't consider it a missed opportunity, either. It's raining men. Waiting for other people to decide your destiny seems a little defeatist, but if it works for you. Just for reference though, there are many reasons that a man who is interested in a woman would not ask her out. To use the example of curly_locks85, she's a regular customer in his place of business, and asking her out would be inappropriate.
caramel c Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 OK, so the OP has a choice. She can wait and wonder, or she can take initiative and get an answer pretty much right away. Which makes more sense? Seriously... lol, no I wouldn't be wondering either. I'd just go on with my life and forget about it. Hey, I do understand where you're coming from. Just saying what I think.
caramel c Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Waiting for other people to decide your destiny seems a little defeatist, but if it works for you. Just for reference though, there are many reasons that a man who is interested in a woman would not ask her out. To use the example of curly_locks85, she's a regular customer in his place of business, and asking her out would be inappropriate. I don't remember saying anything about waiting. No waiting. Either he asks or he doesn't. And, you are right, I'm sure there ARE many reasons guys don't ask girls out that they are interested in. What I'm also sure of, is that I am not interested in THOSE guys. I am interested in the guy who does ask me out. And it does work for me.
Un-Conventional Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 No, I don't look at it that way. If I was interested in a guy who didn't ask me out then I simply would conclude that he wasn't interested for some reason. I would not think of waiting or expecting a guy to read my mind at all. I wouldn't consider it a missed opportunity, either. It's raining men. So, it raining men, huh? But I hear so much from females about "I can't find a good guy" and I assume she considers this to be a good guy. Yes there are a lot of men out there but how many are worth the time, so OP you can get your umbrella wet now (no pun or anything sexual intended) or wait for the next partially cloudly with a chance of showers and next time u could end up in the same situation.
caramel c Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 So, it raining men, huh? But I hear so much from females about "I can't find a good guy" and I assume she considers this to be a good guy. Yes there are a lot of men out there but how many are worth the time, so OP you can get your umbrella wet now (no pun or anything sexual intended) or wait for the next partially cloudly with a chance of showers and next time u could end up in the same situation. Yes, absolutely! There is no shortage of good men in this world.
Vet Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 I don't remember saying anything about waiting. No waiting. Either he asks or he doesn't. And, you are right, I'm sure there ARE many reasons guys don't ask girls out that they are interested in. What I'm also sure of, is that I am not interested in THOSE guys. I am interested in the guy who does ask me out. And it does work for me. I'm glad it works for you, but you are still passively waiting on others to decide who you're with, even if you aren't waiting on particular, individual people.
caramel c Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 I'm glad it works for you, but you are still passively waiting on others to decide who you're with, even if you aren't waiting on particular, individual people. Hmm, I never looked at it that way and still don't. In between relationships is a fine time to be single & enjoy life. When someone good comes along, I will take the opportunity. Till then its anything but waiting.
Confusedalways Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Hmm.. tricky. I always wish I had the courage to ask men out like this-- good for you for working up the courage! I would definitely try to keep the banter going and then a 'hey we should get coffee sometime' or something. The number on the receipt sounds like a great idea, if you're feeling brave. good luck, keep us posted
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Just ask him out already. He may feel it is unprofessional to ask out customers. When he gives you the receipt to sign, write your phone number down on it, and tell him to give you a call. Very easy, and quite the turn-on if I may say so. Do what Vet said.
bluewolf17 Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Is there any way you can find out if this guy is even single? So..it's a gift shop, right? Cards etc? Go in there and ask him for his advice on somthing..lets say, you need a card/gift for your brothers girfriend (or whatever). Say somthing like "I'm just not good at buying gifts/cards for other women! Then ask him if his wife/girlfriend would enjoy that card/gift. Presto. You will either find out he has a S.O, or he will say he doesn't have one..and try to help you anyways. Sneeky..obvious..who cares? And with that information you can go from there. Come in a bit later and ask him out, or ask him out when he is ringing you up. If he says no, there are always other stores
kizik Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Say somthing like "I'm just not good at buying gifts/cards for other women! Then ask him if his wife/girlfriend would enjoy that card/gift. Presto. You will either find out he has a S.O, or he will say he doesn't have one..and try to help you anyways. Sneeky..obvious..who cares? You are a tricky, tricky devil. Do what BW17 says.
sally4sara Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Simple. You walk up to the guy and say: Now its about time that I clear this So pardon me mister But I'd like for you to hear this If you kiss me then I'll kiss you back cuz I feel real good inside And its just from your nearness Theres no need for you to fear this If you kiss me then I'll kiss you back
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Is there any way you can find out if this guy is even single? So..it's a gift shop, right? Cards etc? Go in there and ask him for his advice on somthing..lets say, you need a card/gift for your brothers girfriend (or whatever). Say somthing like "I'm just not good at buying gifts/cards for other women! Then ask him if his wife/girlfriend would enjoy that card/gift. Presto. You will either find out he has a S.O, or he will say he doesn't have one..and try to help you anyways. Sneeky..obvious..who cares? And with that information you can go from there. Come in a bit later and ask him out, or ask him out when he is ringing you up. If he says no, there are always other stores I don't think this is such a good idea. First, she writes she's shy, so anything longer might be a problem. Also, it's very obvious as to why she would ask for \his girlfriend's opinion', and this backhanded way makes her look very insecure. And why would she care if he has a gf at this point? If she just gives him her number, and he calls, he's obviously interested...and everything else she can find out while having a drink somewhere, not in the store in front of everyone. So, again... do what Vet says. Simple is beautiful.
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Simple. You walk up to the guy and say: Now its about time that I clear this So pardon me mister But I'd like for you to hear this If you kiss me then I'll kiss you back cuz I feel real good inside And its just from your nearness Theres no need for you to fear this If you kiss me then I'll kiss you back Won't work, because it doesn't end in '...prince of bel-air.'
bluewolf17 Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 I don't think this is such a good idea. First, she writes she's shy, so anything longer might be a problem. Also, it's very obvious as to why she would ask for \his girlfriend's opinion', and this backhanded way makes her look very insecure. And why would she care if he has a gf at this point? If she just gives him her number, and he calls, he's obviously interested...and everything else she can find out while having a drink somewhere, not in the store in front of everyone. So, again... do what Vet says. Simple is beautiful. Eh, you may be right. This tactic probably wouldn't work with a shy person. If your going to do it that way you have to be confident and flirty in doing it. I just thought it would be a good way to figure out if he was single in the first place..if that was a big roadblock in her asking him out in the first place.
sally4sara Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Won't work, because it doesn't end in '...prince of bel-air.' Ummmm Ever heard of the Digital Underground? You know - Where Tupac got his start and the Humpty Dance song? Will Smith WISHES he were that cool!
utterer of lies Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Ummmm Ever heard of the Digital Underground? You know - Where Tupac got his start and the Humpty Dance song? Will Smith WISHES he were that cool! Hm, I'm more of an Underground Resistance guy. And the Bel-Air thingy is an old meme...funnier if you know it http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Bel-air
sally4sara Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Hm, I'm more of an Underground Resistance guy. And the Bel-Air thingy is an old meme...funnier if you know it http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/Bel-air Yeah I know the show; not near as good as the DU.
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