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You know Miss Lady, I've been thinking a lot about a lot of things and with you being a very important person in my life I really want to share these things with you, you've always been there for me and I like to think that you still are to a certain extent.

 

I like to think that everyday we grow just a bit more then the last, but lately I've been doing a lot of growing up and realising a lot of things about myself and honestly it's thanks to you.

 

I'd be lying if I said I wasn't sad and heartbroken about everything but I've found myself to be looking at the positive side of things. Telling myself; you know what, Miss Lady was a great girl, she made me realise a lot of things about myself and being in a relationship, I'm lucky to have found her and spent so much time with her, she made me a better person.

 

You've tought me to speak my emotions instead of hiding them, show ppl how I care for them instead of assuming they know, make the people around me feel special, communicate about things weather they be good or bad, have a positive outlook on life, take advantage of life and every moment, not worry about tomorrow just take advantage of today, listen to the people around me and what they want instead of shutting it down with what I want. Basicly just work harder at life instead of being so easy going, life is hard and you need to work at it to make it the best it can be.

 

So Miss Lady, I thank you for all this, you will always have a special place in my heart because without having lived a life with you, I would of never discovered all these things about myself, making me a better person today then I was when we first met.

 

It's sad how life works, realising so many things when it's to late. I suppose that when you lose the person you love it makes you think a lot more about life and that person, making you realise all the things that were right in front of you the whole time. It's dissapointing for sure, I can't say the opposite, but at this point in time I have to learn to live with it and look forward at who I am now not who I was.

 

I don't expect any of this to change the way you feel, it just needed to be said. A person that was so great to me deserves nothing less then to be shown the appreciation and thanks that they deserve.

 

Your a great person Miss Lady, don't ever forget that, you've made of me a new person and I could never thank you enough.

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Funky, This is sooooo well written and really speaks from the heart. You have me in tears:o sooo beautiful and sincere.:)

 

Mea:)

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Thanks, it was difficult for me to realise all these things, but happier now with these thoughts then the thought of not having her.

 

Now the question remains, do I share it with her :confused:

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It took two to create that post. You had to be willing to want the perspectives she shared. You grew because you allowed yourself that with her. Sounds like you had a mutual trust.

 

You matured from this experience and you are wiser for it. The graditude seemed genuine.

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Thanks, it was difficult for me to realise all these things, but happier now with these thoughts then the thought of not having her.

 

Now the question remains, do I share it with her :confused:

 

Well, I think that all depends on how you will deal with her response. While she may be very touched by your words, there is a slight chance it may go the other way. Are you able to deal with her feeling's with regards to this lovely letter either way?

 

Mea:)

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Actually knowing her and her ego she would probably not even respond to anything...

 

Can't wait for these feelings to go away and meet someone else, I thought I was set for life and now I have to start over... scared I won't find anyone else...

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What you wrote was lovely but do your best not to send it to her. Keep it just for you and keep writing, get your thoughts and feelings down. When you start feeling better about yourself, re-read what you wrote. You will have a different take on it then.

 

She might or might not respond to it if you do send it. I will guarantee you this though...her response will not be what you seek. She will smile throughout and it will make her feel good inside, no doubt, and that's it. Maybe she will send you a thank you email and throw out a few nice things to say about you as well. She might even let whoever else she has in her life, read it too, because it puts her in a really good light.

 

Start looking at her bad points, we all have em, and do your best to get her off the pedestal you have her on. It's the best way to move forward, next to crying your eyes out.

 

If you are looking for ways to get her back, singing her praises will not work. Let her get on with her life, without you and maybe she will enjoy life without you as much as you enjoy life without her.

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