Meaplus3 Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 What is it that you men really desire for a long term R? What special qualities do you look for in a woman? What makes a woman stand out and become special in your eyes?? And does age matter to you? Just curious here! Any feed back would be appreciated. Mea;)
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Go look in a mirror - there's my answer. Age does play something of a factor in my decision. It's more likely that someone in the same general age range will be at the same stage of life as you are, and thus want the same things. There's a better chance they'll be at the same stage in family life, career, social events, etc. If you're at that point in life where you just want to party, you don't want someone who's looking to have kids, or if you are looking to have kids, you don't want someone who already has kids that have grown up, moved out, and are only 3 years younger than you are, etcetera, etcetera. So although age itself doesn't matter (as I have happily dated women 20 years my senior), the goals that each age represents does matter. As Mick Jagger once said, "what a drag it is, getting old."
Author Meaplus3 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Go look in a mirror - there's my answer. Age does play something of a factor in my decision. It's more likely that someone in the same general age range will be at the same stage of life as you are, and thus want the same things. There's a better chance they'll be at the same stage in family life, career, social events, etc. If you're at that point in life where you just want to party, you don't want someone who's looking to have kids, or if you are looking to have kids, you don't want someone who already has kids that have grown up, moved out, and are only 3 years younger than you are, etcetera, etcetera. So although age itself doesn't matter (as I have happily dated women 20 years my senior), the goals that each age represents does matter. As Mick Jagger once said, "what a drag it is, getting old." Thanks for your thoughts Johnny.. makes perfect sense. Mea:)
carhill Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 What is it that you men really desire for a long term R?For me, a positive and loving companion; someone with whom I can share on a daily basis. What special qualities do you look for in a woman?Over time, beyond the usual qualities of compatibility, I've found the 'special' quality is a hard to define one, an aura of 'openness'. This isn't necessarily exclusive to how she treats me, but rather her interactions with the world. What makes a woman stand out and become special in your eyes?? A woman who is equally aware and pursuant of her own goals and passions and is similarly aware of and supportive of mine. And does age matter to you?TBH, looking back, age has never been relevant. Neither, in any significant way, has been appearance. The one commonality, the quality which always mattered, and matters, was/is intimacy. I struggle to think of one woman to whom I was attracted with whom I did not first have intimacy. For me, the intimacy has always preceded strong attraction. I've had superficial attraction without it, where the woman disappears from my thoughts and emotions when not in my presence, but never strong attraction, the kind that's necessary for a LTR. Since my psychology has never existed in the ONS/STR universe, strong attraction has always been important, irrespective of age. Hope that helps. One datapoint
Author Meaplus3 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Thanks Carhill. I very much appreciate your feedback. Getting different viewpoints is helpful. I'm sort of at a road block right now when it comes to LTR's.. this is why I was wondering what men really desire in a woman.. for the long term. Mea:)
boldjack Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 First, attraction. If there aren't any sparks then it won't work. I like intelligent, charming, honest women of heart and mind..
fral945 Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 What is it that you men really desire for a long term R? I desire emotional and physical satisfaction. Meaning a good, long fulfilling sex life and a good emotional connection without too much drama. What special qualities do you look for in a woman? What makes a woman stand out and become special in your eyes?? A woman that stands out to me would have a large percentage of following qualities: - Is my physical type (i.e., attractive to me) - Lives a healthy lifestyle and has healthy habits (that ensures me that she will probably maintain a healthy weight over the long haul) - Sexually available and eager and willing to be intimate on a regular basis - Reasonable - Accountable - Well rounded - Realistic And does age matter to you? Just curious here! Any feed back would be appreciated. Somewhat. I tend to connect better emotionally to women my age or older. I'm 29 and don't think there are many women younger than me that have much to offer for a long term relationship.
Mr.Mom09 Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 The one thing we don't like is a control freak .
carhill Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 Yeah, especially if he doesn't do laundry 'your' way
Author Meaplus3 Posted August 21, 2009 Author Posted August 21, 2009 The one thing we don't like is a control freak . I'd imagine most men don't! Yeah, especially if he doesn't do laundry 'your' way Exactly! Mea:)
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