xra Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 My boyfriend promised to call and didn't...again, for the 4th time this month. Every time, he says he'll call but then gets busy and 'forgets'...He also doesn't receive my texts or calls during these times, apparently. He called a day later, but was not apologetic and just made excuses... I was mad and hung up on him. The following day, I get a text message saying, "I need some alone time for a few days, I'll text you". It's been six days since then, and I haven't heard anything from him. We talk at least once a day, by the way, so this is not normal by any means. I'm not planning to call or text him, since he wanted his alone time... But I feel like he is wrong here, not me. We've been dating for 2.5 years, and the relationship is serious and generally great (except for a few fights). What do I do? I'm sick of waiting for him and letting him dictate the terms. I'm having a lot of family problems right now, and I need someone to lean on, not more stress and heartbreak....
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 What do you do? Well, for heaven's sake, honey - you get out of the house and forget about him. He's not your only hobby, I hope? What other interests do you have? Get out there and get to them. When/if he finally DOES come back around, you didn't even notice he was gone!
TaraMaiden Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 He's looking for a way out. He wants you to dump him. So? Dump him. Send a text; "Hope you enjoyed your 'alone time' for a few days. Am now taking MY alone time for a few years. Won't be texting you again. Bye!" (the above will do one of two things, right? get a reaction - or not get a reaction. ) So wait. But don't linger too long. It's a big world and there's so much to do!
Lyssa Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 I would concentrate on my family problems than on a guy that is being a d*ck. I hope you have some friends you can lean on but if you don't, post whatever you're going through on LS - trust me, people on here are supportive.
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 He has dropped you considerably low on his priority list. He has made you an option rather than a priority. Regardless of how serious you were, it is clear he is no longer serious about keeping you in his life. Think about it - if you loved someone, and I mean really and truly loved them and were in love with them could you imagine blowing them off like that, knowing that doing so might result in you losing them? He blew you off, and doesn't seem to care if you stick around. He is breaking up with you basically. Just taking the slow route. I suspect you'll see things coast down from here. What to do? You know the ride is ending. You can either wait til it grinds to a halt, or get out while you still have some sort of control.
Un-Conventional Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Yeah after 2.5 years, ur bf should be passed bullsh*t like this, it sounds to me like he may be looking for a way out, I hope that's not the case but it could become a reality.
leap83 Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Maybe the guy is going through some stuff?! I say don't do anything irrational that you might regret later on. We're all just assuming here. So, keep yourself busy until he comes around and when he does, talk to him about this. I'm sure if he wants to break up, he'll do it. If not, he might just tell you what is up. Just don't pay attention to him now. Your family is more important. Go out with your friends.
Author xra Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 Thanks for the great advice, everyone. I think I'm going to break it off with him, we're clearly not for each other anymore. However, there is a problem.... We're college students, and will be sharing an apartment for the next year with two other friends. What to do? Unfortunately, I can't move out due to several circumstances. Should I ask him to be a man and move out? I really won't be able to stand seeing him every day. He also has anger issues that I really don't want to keep being involved in....
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