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is it true that men can't take criticism/constructive criticism from their SO?

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utterer of lies Established Member

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Actually, you don't need to be rude in order to counter the sugar-coating self-pity parties that go on here. You can say things frankly and directly without being insulting and condescending.

 

Your wisdom opens heart and mind.

 

I am a changed man.

 

Thank you.

GorillaTheater Established Member

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Kizik and Utterer, I think both of you are good, funny posters. And both of you are at your best when mercilessly blasting away at posters' misconceptions.

 

Now give each other a hug and a kiss.

kizik Established Member

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LOL

 

Talking to you sucks. Clearly you can't suspend sarcasm for longer than a post or two.

utterer of lies Established Member

utterer of lies

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LOL

 

Talking to you sucks. Clearly you can't suspend sarcasm for longer than a post or two.

 

Indeed.

 

I use sarcasm to impress GorillaTheater.

 

I think it's working.

GorillaTheater Established Member

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Indeed.

 

I use sarcasm to impress GorillaTheater.

 

I think it's working.

 

Yeah, but I'm easy.

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Trialbyfire Established Member

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Yeah, but I'm easy.

I'm not easy but I'm also impressed.

utterer of lies Established Member

utterer of lies

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Yeah, but I'm easy.

 

I know.

 

:lmao::p:laugh:

utterer of lies Established Member

utterer of lies

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I'm not easy

 

:lmao::laugh::p:lmao:

Trialbyfire Established Member

Trialbyfire

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:lmao::laugh::p:lmao:

You found my achilles heel. Intelligent men. ;)

GorillaTheater Established Member

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See? A well-constructed 1-2 jab. For timing and degree of difficulty, I'd go 8.7.

utterer of lies Established Member

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Re: threadjacking...

 

how is he going to learn??????

 

You will need to repeat the same phrases over and over. If at first you don't succeed, your voice isn't shrill enough.

 

 

Being serious, though, his lack of ambition and his laziness are not going to disappear. Do you think you can accept and respect someone like that in the long-term?

IrishCarBomb Established Member

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so i really can't make constructive criticism to a guy? how is he going to learn??????

 

A few secret tricks:

 

1. Withhold sex to "train" him. Men only respond to sexual stimuli. Essentially, you have to treat him like a dog. If he responds well, touch his penis. If he has a week with no mishaps, have sex with him. In just short time you'll have the perfect boyfriend!

 

2. Sleep with someone else. Men are competitive by nature. Once he knows that there's some competition out there, he'll 'straighten-up-and-fly-right'. Plus, this way you get to sleep with other dudes! Win-win!!

 

3. Get pregnant. Men always completely reform when they are going to be fathers. Once you're pregnant with his child, you may not even recognize him any more! No more flaws!

You'reasian Established Member

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See? A well-constructed 1-2 jab. For timing and degree of difficulty, I'd go 8.7.

 

GT is pretty damn funny at times :laugh:

Trialbyfire Established Member

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To throw in another angle, some people can take some criticism and others need to be put on a pedestal. As long as the criticism is reasonable and affects you personally, you can suggest or ask for anything from a partner. If you're always criticizing a partner, or you're criticizing him for the same thing and he doesn't change, if he agrees to, you've got a much bigger problem.

Grumpy22 New Member

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Which is why most dating leads to nowhere.

 

Guys, whom are otherwise genuinely interested in LT relationships have to be in player mode to get things started (or become hermits lol).

 

That would be me, the hermit part i mean. But my girlfriend found me anyway. Lucky me.

Els Established Member

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OP, I think you need to get this straight first.

 

He's not wrong and you're not right. I'm talking purely about his actions with YOU, of course. The job thing may or may not be related.

 

You're just both different. To be honest, I would personally hate if my partner persistently woke me up before I was ready to wake up during my holidays, to do something that they didn't even ASK me if I'd like doing (he doesn't seem like he likes the outdoorsy tourist stuff does he?)

 

And honey, I know all about the LDR-limited-time thing. I'm in one myself. But quality of time together is not dictated by how many activities you cram in! It's about how much you BOTH enjoy your time together. BOTH means him as well.

 

However, if the things you enjoy spending your time together are so drastically different, you do sound incompatible, I'm afraid to say.

Woggle Established Member

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Stop trying to change him and take him or leave him. Trying to change a man is an exercise in futility and you will probably come across as a nag who finds fault with everything he does.

Jersey Shortie Established Member

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Well, it's been my personal experience that men usually don't like to hear critism. I think because it makes them feel bad about themselves or like they might be failing in some way.

 

Rob, that's good though if you have that outlook on things. I don't find that most guys do. Your answer did surprise me.

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