wow123 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Everytime I have been dumped by a girl she already has a new guy lined up and begins a new relationship immediately. Getting dumped hurts enough but knowing they are with someone else is the killer. How many of you have gone through this?
Devil Inside Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 It happens all the time. Women usually realize they are done in a relationship before their guy has any clue. If you look back, you can probably now see how she has been pulling away the last few months. As she pulls away from you she may be open to other guys. Sorry man...it is a killer.
Darren09 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Yeah Its happened to me as soon as she split with me and not talking to me i new straight away she has got to be doing something to fill in the gap.... a new guy..... she wont admit it to me tho. She lies out of her arse that shes not with anyonehow pathetic is that. If that was me ad be more than happy to tell her that i have found somebody else if i loved them... Bull**** it really is
EmperorR Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Yep usually happens because women emotionally detach and thus are out of the relationship already so it's easy to just branch hop to th next sucker. That's why you go no contact asap and then you have no idea what they are doing. Usually it's a new friend that they tell you don't worry about him I'll never date him etc., Dumped? Go nc change your number if you can, block ex on facebook and move on with you life
motive2002 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 My ex left me for my (then) best friend, so not only did I know she moved on immediately, it was to someone I've known for over 20 years. THAT IS A VISUAL I NEVER EVER NEEDED IN MY WHOLE LIFE THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!!
playlislay Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I don't think it is just women who do this, men are capable of having someone else lined up too. I have to say that I havent experienced this first hand, but many of my girl friends have and they have been destroyed by the whole situation. I know that my ex is the type to sleep around within a few weeks of splitting up with someone, which made the aftermath even worse. Saying that, I was the dumper in this situation(although I was kind of mixed up at the time and wanted him back in the end-he rejected my proposal), so I guess I kind of knew what he was going to do and in the end I got what I deserved. Like you said wow123, it is knowing what was happening after the break up is the killer!!
NopeNah Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Every single time i've been the dumpee there's been another guy already lined up. Sometime weeks if not months in advance. They've ALL tried to come back to me at some point too..weird!
Ingenue Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I have to concur that this type of behaviour is not the exclusive domain of women, as men can do it too. My ex (male) did this to me just last year. He was already talking to a new woman and within a week to the day of dumping me, he was already going out with her. I suspect he actually started dating her prior to dumping me, but have no hard evidence. It's a horrible experience to go through but in the end, be thankful that you're no longer with a person who disrespects you that much to treat you so poorly
Unspoken Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 It's a horrible experience to go through but in the end, be thankful that you're no longer with a person who disrespects you that much to treat you so poorly ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ I totally agree with Ingenue on that point.
scienceguy Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Join the club. Same thing happened to me. I later out that the funny business was going on for 3-4 months before the break up. Ex broke up with me, and about a week or two later, she was planning on moving in with other guy, and he dumped his g/f. As everybody else has told you, NC is the only way to go. Also, Ingenue's comment is spot on: it's a hellish experience, but then you also realize that you deserve better than that.
Omega3 Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Also, Ingenue's comment is spot on: it's a hellish experience, but then you also realize that you deserve better than that. IE, find another girl who does it again 2 years later. It's funny we've all been through it. It's the nature of the breakup I guess.
moo Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 my ex claimed he met someone after we broke up. First, as many knows, we hadn't broken up. We had a terrible argument. A week later, he was dating somone else. Within that week, not only did he meet her, but he had more than one date? Maybe, he's gorgeous. Still...he jumps from relationship to relationship. He will never have a healthy relationship, as he is too busy drowning his relationship problems with other women. After he left me, and talking with him about it, I realize it is a pattern with him.
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