Onecontent Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Your right, NotKelly. "Child free" is an obnoxious term. Thank you for bringing that to my attention.
sb129 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Women who do not want children should not get married because unity of a man and a woman is made to bear children. I do respect women who dont want children though, its a personal choice and they should not be condemned for it. You just did condemn them for it in the first sentence of your post. They have just as much right to be married as any other woman. Some women get married, and then CAN'T have children- do you then think they should get divorced so the man can bear children with someone else? NotKelly and Onecontent- I too am quite horrified at the judgements that some "hot fish" make. I am a "hot fish" right now- I don't think there is anything wrong with not having children. Its not for everyone- I would be a terrible police officer, hence, I am not a police officer. Have no idea whether will be a good mother either, fingers crossed huh, as a big downside is you can't change your mind the way you can with careers! That aspect alone is enough for me to have respect for people who choose not to become mothers- too many people are parents who shouldn't be.
anne1707 Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Personally, mothers make better employee managers. They are used to giving orders. I find non-mom women to be more timid about giving orders and maybe that makes some of them bitchy because they feel they don't know what to do. Apart from totally agreeing with SB129 on the insulting description of women without children as "obnoxious", I just had to pick up on this comment. I personally think the ability to be a manager has absolutely nothing to do with whether you are a mother or not. Your suggestion that mothers are better managers because they are used to giving orders is nonsense in that yes they have to instruct and discipline a child but the way you talk to a young child is completely different to the way you speak to an adult in the workplace. I am quite sure that most mothers would agree that if they spoke to colleagues the way they sometimes speak to their children, then there would be complaints flooding in. Maybe you should do some reading up on Transactional Analysis to get some clearer perspective. As a manager, I do not want to "parent" my team - they are adults as am I and I treat them with the respect and courtesy they deserve. Curious by your concept of someone being a bitch because they are timid - seems like a contradiction to me.
DefiningSilence Posted September 6, 2009 Posted September 6, 2009 Women who do not want children should not get married because unity of a man and a woman is made to bear children. I do respect women who dont want children though, its a personal choice and they should not be condemned for it. Maybe I'm on edge because my oh so lovely FMIL is currently trying to convince my DF not to marry me because I don't want children (conveniently forgetting the fact that HE doesn't want children either!), but this comment was a bit offensive to me. Should women that don't want to have children not be able to reap the legal benefits of being married? If something happens to I or my DF, we want medical & legal decisions about ourselves and our assets to be in each other hands not our parents.
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