broken_promises Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Is it weird to want to contact my ex's last two exes and just tell them how awful it must have been for them? He has the same relationship pattern over and over (but convinces each new woman he is with that she is different than all of his exes and then does the same thing all over again.) I am so angry with myself that I believed him when he said disparaging stuff about his exes until the exact same things he told me about with them started happening to me in the relationship. So, I don't know what the compulsion is to contact them other than feeling like I need to validate them in some way. I know that if, for example, the current wife of my first ex from a long time ago called me saying that he was cheating on her too, I would absolutely welcome the contact and be able to empathize. But then, I know I am not like other people and I'd be afraid that it would come off as stalker-ish or just remind them of a painful part of their life that they wouldn't want to open back up again. Has anyone ever done this? Thoughts?
silic0ntoad Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I wanted to contact my Ex's ex to find out if my relationship was not based on lies, but I figured ignorance is bliss and I will leave it at that. Haven't thought about it since. In fact, I really don't care to know, anymore.
IntoLove Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Breathe deep . Close your eyes . Let them go . All : your ex and his exes . You are free now . Enjoy it .
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