Twice "No" . I want "YES!"

[IntoLove]

Hello,all.

I want to tell you my story in short .

 

I found a new work place in a nice company where the atmosphere is far from romantic,it is all about service . [Am there already for 2 months].

In one week that I started to work SHE came back from the holidays she spent in Greece ..I did not know her as her holidays were of 2 weeks and I came just a week ago,as I said .

 

The sparkle was IMMEDIATE.I just got stunned .

 

Was following her like a shadow .. damn ... never happened to me before .. just was trying totalk to her all times possible , was looking at her though did not notice until my friend told me to look some other side as I was as it appeared looking at her like a full idiot !

Well, you say , "he liked her,so what he wants here now ? "

 

Ok, now I tell you .

 

I am of Pakistani origin and she is an Indian ,half American .. Very beautiful combination (well,American mom is Irish actually) ... her hair,her body,her eyes, all makes me crazy ! I do nt know what happened to me such ! Its like an electcric shock ,

and I know I just cant have any hopes really in love with her as her origin and mine are so ......just .... . it sucks !

My family wont be happy if I marry an Indian as my uncles was killed by Indian borderpolice in 2006,and her family wont accept me !

 

She seems to be all single,not committed even ... Me too single .

 

We are in our late 20-s ..

 

What can I do ?

How to overcome ?How to win ?

Or how to terminate my feelings to her ?

 

 

I am IN LOVE !!!!!!!!

 

 

yes,we talk a lot..and we find so much common ...

at the same time I am feeling she is trying "not to cross the borderline"

 

 

Thank you for any advice,thank you for any discussion

[IntoLove]

Is anyone there to read it at all ?

[BCCA]

So, Im confused by a couple of things...

 

1. The title of your thread. 2 No's, you want Yes...what are you reffering to? Has she said no to you before?

 

2. What kind of advice are you looking for?

[IntoLove]

1-She did not say "NO" yet to me , but her behavior shows she wont go on ...as she knows it will be tough for her family to accept me as her bf ...because I am Pakistani, she is Indian ..well, we are from traditional families both .

 

 

2-I just want to hear if anyone else had such an affair and how it ended ..

or how to forget her ? But how can I forget her when I daily see her and talk to her and look into her eyes and see her lips ????

 

 

[TaraMaiden]

I think you actually need to talk to her to establish whether she really does like you,and whether there could be a chance for you.

 

You don't explain where you live, but living in India or Pakistan, things would indeed be very difficult.

if you live elsewhere, tradition and custom may be important, but as you are both in your late 20's, you are both adults, governed by the country's laws, and customs and traditions are not binding.

You may well incur the anger of your families - but there is nothing they could do. Not legally.

 

Emotional pressure would be quite different.

it would depend how strongly you both might feel about one another.

 

but this is looking way ahead.

First of all - talk to her!

 

It's allowed, you know!

[Vet]

You aren't in love with her. You're infatuated by her beauty, perhaps, but it sounds like you know nothing about her other than her family background. You don't even really know her.

[MadDriver]

I would not advise dating co-workers. No woman is worth risking your career over.

 

But of course you already decided you want to do it. Fine. Ask her out on a group lunch; office workers go out to lunch together all the time.

 

I hope you're not one of those cheapskates who brings lunch to work everyday like a middle-schooler.

[BCCA]

How old are you both?

 

Have you ever had a gf before?