DDOWE Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Ok so iv been going out with my girlfriend for a good while now, we have been living together for the last 6 months and have recently decided to go traveling for a year! Flights booked, everything sorted, we are leaving in 3 months!!! However now i dont know if i want to go with her!!! She has been so mean to me lately, she tells me im annoying when i try to talk about any of our issues, i asked her to come away with me for a few days when i visit my sister and she flew off the handle saying i only asked her because i thought id be in trouble if i didnt-the truth is that i asked her cause i wanted to spend time with her and would miss her! I told her this and i was yelled at. Now i know some of you are thinking that i probably treat her like crap but i really dont! Im a really good guy and would die for her, iv never hurt her at all but these mood swings and screaming and making me out to be such a b*stard is getting to be too much! I dont kno if i can spend a year listening to this while traveling! What should i do??? Really upset and really confused about what to do with the woman i love and had hoped to spend my life with! D
dreamergrl Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 How long were you together before moving into together?
Bleeve Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Sounds like she is starting to show the real her. Ask her what is wrong or has changed that is causing her to be this way. Could be something going on personally for her that maybe some understanding could help with. but Don't waste you time with someone that treats you poorly.
Author DDOWE Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 We were together about a 8/9 months before we moved in together! iv asked her time and time again what is wrong and she says nothing is and seems to mean it........she just seems to have turned into a b*tch with me out of the blue for the last few months!
dreamergrl Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Maybe it was just too soon to move in together. Maybe it didn't feel like it at the time. But to me, it sounds like maybe there's just too much time being spent together. Then going off and traveling for a year?! I think maybe she's pushing away because she's not ready for what you guys have.
Author DDOWE Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 I agree-but i know she doesnt see it like that and she is impossible to talk to about stuff like this! How should it be approached? Like if i say " i think your acting out because we have moved too fast etc etc ", i know she will say these exact words - "no im not, im fine "....how can anyone respond to that ????
Woggle Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Deep down I think you know what you need to do. You are 23 and in the prime of your young adulthood so why waste anymore of your time dealing with this crap. It will only get worse so why not take a friend instead and have the time of your lives on this trip?
dreamergrl Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I would say no to spending a year traveling together. To me, I don't think she's ready to spend that much time together. Her less mature side is coming out as a reaction to how quickly things progressed. Take some space away from each other, then regroup.
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