Art_Critic Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 I don't think it's unreasonable to want to know fairly early on in a relationship whether the person I'm seeing agrees with me on that or finds the risks acceptable. Do you tell your dates that you used to smoke as well so they can decide if they want to be with someone who still has the risk of cancer and heart disease ? While stopping is the best thing you ever did to extend your life.. the fact that you did smoke still places you at very increased risks to cancer and heart disease in comparison to a non smoker that has never smoke before.. Scroll on down to the part where it talks about "When smokers quit -- What are the benefits over time?" http://www.cancer.org/docroot/PED/content/PED_10_13X_Guide_for_Quitting_Smoking.asp I'm a non smoker and have never smoked and I have lost 2 parents ( of my 3 parents ) to lung cancer from cig smoking and honestly it makes me feel that this debate about telling someone you are a smoker also cuts both ways if you used to smoke.. you should also disclose that you used to smoke as well so that the person you are getting involved with knows they might lose you early to cancer or heart disease. Both of my parents hadn't smoked in years when the cancer was discovered. Just something to think about... As to the OP.. do you have any withdrawal symptoms when you stay over a girls house ? I think you should tell them as soon as you get past the first or second date.. at the very least you should hint to that you are a user of smokeless tobacco..
sweetjasmine Posted August 21, 2009 Posted August 21, 2009 Do you tell your dates that you used to smoke as well so they can decide if they want to be with someone who still has the risk of cancer and heart disease ? My SO knew before we had started dating that I had smoked cigarettes before, so it wasn't really an issue that I had to bring up. I've only ever had maybe 10 cigarettes in my life, so the heightened risk of cancer and heart disease isn't really there anymore since my body has had enough time to recover from it. While stopping is the best thing you ever did to extend your life.. the fact that you did smoke still places you at very increased risks to cancer and heart disease in comparison to a non smoker that has never smoke before.. That'd definitely be true if I had been a regular smoker. It's been long enough since I had a cigarette that my body has repaired the damage. you should also disclose that you used to smoke as well so that the person you are getting involved with knows they might lose you early to cancer or heart disease. Yeah, I mostly agree. At the same time, most people would find it weird if the person they just started dating said, "I think you should know that we have a history of colon cancer and heart disease on both sides of my family, so I'm at heightened risk for it."
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