mrsplinter17 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I make the assumption that if you flirt with someone you have some type of sexual interest in them. Im curious if its possible for two married coworkers to flirt with each other and remain faithful to their spouses. Personally, I think it is if the flirting doesnt go overboard. I just worry that such an unacknowledged attraction between two people can eventually lead to unfaithfulness.
norajane Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 There's mild, harmless flirtation, and there's flirting with intent. There are natural flirts who flirt with everybody, and there are those who only flirt with people they are interested in. Can people flirt and remain faithful? Of course. It's pretty easy to blur the lines and cross them, but it takes BOTH of them to do so. As long as at least one of them is flirting without intent, nothing will happen.
Thornton Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I'd say I'm a natural flirt, and I don't flirt with intention, it's more for an ego boost. I just like it when guys find me attractive, it's more about self validation than about finding the other person attractive. I'll flirt with guys I have no intention of dating, and with guys I'm not even attracted to. So for me, flirtation is just a bit of harmless fun and rarely goes anywhere. Some have even suggested that flirtation is the key to a lasting relationship - for example this article http://www.salon.com/aug97/mothers/time970805.html
stepka Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 I think it's risky to open that can of worms with a coworker, even the flirting w/o intent. For one thing, you generally see these people every day and feelings may build over time, esp if you know the other person is attracted too. I'm sure that's how most affairs start--innocently--unless they're both players or something. So no, I think it's a very bad idea.
Trialbyfire Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 There's mild, harmless flirtation, and there's flirting with intent. There are natural flirts who flirt with everybody, and there are those who only flirt with people they are interested in. Can people flirt and remain faithful? Of course. It's pretty easy to blur the lines and cross them, but it takes BOTH of them to do so. As long as at least one of them is flirting without intent, nothing will happen. This pretty much says it all except to add in that there are people who will cheat and others who won't.
Trialbyfire Posted August 22, 2009 Posted August 22, 2009 Whoah, I forgot about your other thread. You already have feelings for this coworker. You're treading on dangerous turf! Stop the flirting and pull back to professional but civil. Your situation is a train wreck, waiting to happen.
meep1227 Posted August 25, 2009 Posted August 25, 2009 Yes they can... I know so because i'm in a relationship with an amazing guy but i flirt with two of my coworkers... one guy and one girl. the guy tries to take it farther but thats only cause he doesn't have a girlfriend. I wont allow it to be taken farther then flirting... its all good as long as its not more then flirting.
Dina2208 Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 This is my opinion.... there can be two types of flirting. Just general conversation, or flirting flirting. To me, if there is flirting, there is interest, which means there is potential. If your partner really cared, he wouldn't flirt with other people.
TaraMaiden Posted August 26, 2009 Posted August 26, 2009 Whoah, I forgot about your other thread. You already have feelings for this coworker. You're treading on dangerous turf! Stop the flirting and pull back to professional but civil. Your situation is a train wreck, waiting to happen. I'd agree... I notice you didn't come back in to your own thread and answer my question.... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t198764/
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