whoknows99 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 To make a long story as short as possible... I was with my ex w for 9 yrs. We have 2 kids. After 8 years things went south. Said the issues with me and her family were the cause and she couldn't deal with it anymore. She tried to separate but stuck around for another year. Times were up and down during that year. So then she left and that was it. I was heartbroken and very upset. Nothing I could really do because when she left - she was really gone. Immediately started dating and in an emotional rollercoaster ride. Dated heroin addicts, convicts, had multiple guys around my kids, went bankrupt, etc. Just an emotional mess. Now its been a year. I've moved on (for the most part) and I am happy with myself. We've had major arguments over her bad decisions regarding the kids, not being there for them, still allowing her family to interfere with her life, etc. I just found out recently she was in a real financial and emotional mess. She said she was moving from her family. (she lives near them). This shocked me because after 1 year back with them she couldn't take it but thats all we ever had issues with during our time together. And I was still going. We got together to talk and for the first time she started saying that she needs to make changes, that she knows things she had done weren't right, and she wants things to get better for her. Basically the talk was that I am there to support her in any positive moves she makes and that I will not allow her to take advantage of me. I even offered to help her move. So that was a Friday. We left, said have a good one, bye. The next day she took the kids to the beach. For some unknown reason to myself I drove there and surprised the kids. She was actually glad to see me. We basically had a calm and normal day. No talking about anything negative - just BS normal stuff. The next day she dropped the kids off and I could sense she was feeling something. I have to admit... us getting along equals our old times. We both feel it. We were the type that was love at first sight. Well the inevitable happened and we got it on. Still we were both in good spirits and later on she went home. The next day she came to see the kids and once again a good mood, good talk, etc. We didn't go the full route but did kiss a little. The next day she lost her job. Was really down and out. I asked her to stop by to see the kids because it would be good for her. She stopped by, had dinner with us, watched a movie, etc. Now not once did I make a move. Before I did. This time she made the move to hug me 2x. Both times I did but was cautious. I also went to the store earlier to get her a card that basically said "I'm here if you need it". I could tell she was waiting for me to make a move for her before she left but I didn't. Instead I had the card in her car waiting for her. So when she got in she read it. I hopped in the car to talk to her and she said thank you and gave me another hug but kissed me on the cheek. I was happy with that and said good night. Now... What in the heck is happening??
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