Gemini09 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 When it comes to dating, what do you all think about this? How important is what someone drives to you? What our your opinions on this? In the past, I had to drive a vehicle that wasn't exactly that great, and I always felt bad about telling a guy what I drove. Luckily, I drive something else currently and its much better. I know this sort of thing shouldn't matter, but there are people who judge you on these types of things. I remember once at a job, a lady was trying to set me up with her niece. The first thing she said was, he is very attractive and he DRIVES, and named the car, which was quite expensive. It made me feel bad, because I drove a POS at the time. I have to admit, it would bother me if someone I was going to date drove a POS as well. Is this bad I feel this way? I know it doesn't really define a person, but I've heard people say you can tell a lot about someone from the type of car they drive.
BobSacamento Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I have driven a POS. I guess it depends on why you are driving the POS. So to not go out with someone for the first date because they drive a POS wouldn't be a good strategy in my eyes.
carhill Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 My 'good car' is 45 this year. Guess I better re-think
Phateless Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 It's not really important to me, but WHY they chose that car is, if that makes sense. Example - the girl who drives the gas guzzling SUV because "I'm not a sedan girl." I think she's an idiot. The girl who drives a '91 Miata 5 speed because she "loves tearing around on turns" will be awesome in my eyes. Where's TBF to chime in on this? I drive an old car with faded paint and high miles, but it feels good to drive, handles well, gets good mileage, and is generally a blast to drive. I'm looking for a newer/nicer car but driving dynamics, physical build quality, and performance are more important to me than any kind of status associated with it. I'm looking for a 2000+ bmw 3 series coupe, an RSX Type-S, or possibly an Accord coupe 6 speed, just to give you an example. I like QUALITY. For those of you who have read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, you know what I mean. I do judge people on how they take care of their cars, however. Cars that are clean and well maintained make me think the person is responsible. The person who doesn't even know know when their next oil change is due and has their interior covered in garbage seems disorganized to me. It's most people's 2nd largest investment, and many people's single largest. You'd think you would be on top of taking care of it.
carhill Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I'm looking for a 2000+ bmw 3 series coupe, an RSX Type-S, or possibly an Accord coupe 6 speed, just to give you an example. Yeah, saw your WTB for an E46. I spend most of my time over on the M3 forum. Looking for a 97-99 E36 M3/4/5. If you DIY, I think you'll be happier with the German stuff. I like the older stuff because it is a bit more raw, easier to repair DIY, and still exhibits a timeless appearance. Like Steve Martin said in Planes, Trains, Automobiles, I prefer a woman who has: "A f*cking Datsun, a f*cking Toyota, a f*cking Mustang, a f*cking Buick. Four f*cking wheels and a seat!"
Phateless Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Yeah, saw your WTB for an E46. I spend most of my time over on the M3 forum. Looking for a 97-99 E36 M3/4/5. If you DIY, I think you'll be happier with the German stuff. I like the older stuff because it is a bit more raw, easier to repair DIY, and still exhibits a timeless appearance. Like Steve Martin said in Planes, Trains, Automobiles, I prefer a woman who has: "A f*cking Datsun, a f*cking Toyota, a f*cking Mustang, a f*cking Buick. Four f*cking wheels and a seat!" Haha, nice! Yeah I hear that. After driving Hondas for so many years it's just tough to swallow the idea of BMW maintenance. Hell, there are people who boost bone stock RSX motors because they're THAT bulletproof. *shrug* we'll see what I end up with.
Fay Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 When it comes to dating, what do you all think about this? How important is what someone drives to you? What our your opinions on this? In the past, I had to drive a vehicle that wasn't exactly that great, and I always felt bad about telling a guy what I drove. Luckily, I drive something else currently and its much better. I know this sort of thing shouldn't matter, but there are people who judge you on these types of things. I remember once at a job, a lady was trying to set me up with her niece. The first thing she said was, he is very attractive and he DRIVES, and named the car, which was quite expensive. It made me feel bad, because I drove a POS at the time. I have to admit, it would bother me if someone I was going to date drove a POS as well. Is this bad I feel this way? I know it doesn't really define a person, but I've heard people say you can tell a lot about someone from the type of car they drive. No. My dad judges my boyfriends based on what they drive. Not me. That said, my BFF is really into guys based on their cars. So I guess it depends.
lupa Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 What they drive is not nearly as important as how they maintain it. I should have known better when I saw my wife's first car...full of papers, not well kept... She could have driven an Escort or something, and as long as it was semi-clean, and semi-organized, it would have been fine. I overlooked it, though, and it turned out that's how she maintained her personal life. I know, right? My car is nice, nothing spectacular, but I keep the front seats very clean, and the back usually just has a CD case and maybe my knee brace. I'm getting a newer, nicer car once I'm divorced, and I gotta tell you, it will be kept pristine... The moral of the story -- you can tell a lot about a person by how they keep their car.
carhill Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Haha, nice! Yeah I hear that. After driving Hondas for so many years it's just tough to swallow the idea of BMW maintenance. Hell, there are people who boost bone stock RSX motors because they're THAT bulletproof. IMO, it's the balanced package which endures over time. Watch some of the OEM E30's and E36's doing hillclimb and at places like the Ring and it's really apparent where the engineering pays off. With the right parts, maintenance becomes routine. If I could find an E30 for a price I could afford, I'd snap it up in a heartbeat. Alas, no joy. Too valuable. The conundrum between true status and perceived status is an interesting one. Most folks would salivate over the newest, slickest and trickiest iron, where old-timers, mechanics and racers like myself fly right on past to the venerable beasts of burden. Where does the true status lay? In the eye of the beholder, methinks
clv0116 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I don't care how much money a woman I date earns.
MadDriver Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I see this all the time. Men and women thinking that the opposite sex is looking for exactly what they are looking for, and that the opposite sex cares about what they care about. Some men are obsessed with women's bodies. So they obsess over their own bodies as well, thinking that women will care about his body as much as he does about hers. So he spends all his time and effort at the gym when he's not working as a temp-cook in a fast food joint. Then he wonders why he can't get any girls. Some women are obsessed with a man's salary. So they obsess over their own salaries as well, thinking that the high-earning men they want also want high-earning women in return. So she spends her weeks working 70 hour shifts trying to get that promotion while gaining 50 lbs. in the process and totally letting herself go. Then she wonders why no guy wants to ask her out. Gemini09, you obviously cares about a guy's car. What I'm telling you, and what other guys in this thread are telling you, is that men don't care about a woman's car. Men care about a woman's body and appearance and youthfulness. In other words, you should invest in your body and appearance, not in toys (cars, etc.). Unless of course, you're really trying to impress other WOMEN.
boogieboy Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Dont care about what kind of car a woman drives. As long as it doesnt keep breaking down on the way to my house, and as long as there isnt old stank food all over the floor. SLobs are a complete turnoff.
clv0116 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I see this all the time. Men and women thinking that the opposite sex is looking for exactly what they are looking for, and that the opposite sex cares about what they care about. "Women don't look at men the way men look at women" - Me
Citizen Erased Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I don't care at all. Edit: as long as it has airconditioning.
Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Cute Phateless! The apex rocks! I like quality cars with power and more importantly, great suspension and handling. Classic cars are cool too. I judge a man by not only his ability to pick a good, performance vehicle but also how he drives and maintains it. A man who treats his car badly by trashing it, says a lot about his character.
alphamale Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I judge a man by not only his ability to pick a good, performance vehicle but also how he drives and maintains it. A man who treats his car badly by trashing it, says a lot about his character. so basically you judge a man by money
Chubbi Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 As of now, I don't care that much as long as it gets from point A to point B without stopping or rolling backwards in traffic. It's more of how he drives- I don't like reckless and unnecessary road rage and racing. I do enjoy when a car is clean!
Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 so basically you judge a man by moneyDo you enjoy driving alphamale? Have you ever drag raced or autoX'd?
MadDriver Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 "Women don't look at men the way men look at women" - Me That captures the thought very succinctly! I'm stealing that from you...
Isolde Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 As long as it's functional, clean and doesn't look absolutely awful, this is probably the thing I care about least.
MadDriver Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I don't have a car. Cars are not needed in places such as NYC. I wonder if a potential date will judge me on this. Aren't you the 35-year old virgin?
Author Gemini09 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 If someone can't afford a very nice, expensive car I would not hold that against them. The last guy I dated had a really crappy car. This was because he had to sell his previous one for certain reasons. He also did not have a good job at the time. This was all temporary though, and he did not plan to stay this way......or this is what he told me. I couldn't help feeling embarrassed the few times I rode in his car. It was the kind that was very noisy, so it wasn't just an appearance thing. He would always ask me if I wanted to take his car or mine, and I would most always reply "lets just take mine". He didn't seem to mind either way. Maybe that shows I care too much about appearance and what others think. I am that way with my physical appearance too. I do think the most important thing would be if the person kept the car clean. The thing is most crappy cars I've witnessed, are almost always nasty inside, and unclean. I know they are all not like this though. I can't help it, it does bother me what a guy drives. If they drove a really expensive flashy car I would feel uncomfortable, as well as if they drove a POS...but that's just me. I realize the type of car someone drives should not matter. It matters what type of person they are, but regardless it bugs me.
sunshinegirl Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I found it charming that my first BF drove a total POS. His priorities were elsewhere, and I appreciated that. I'm not into spending loads of cash on cars and find it a boring and useless hobby (sorry); I'd so much rather spend money on travel than on wheels and I've never understood why some men practically have wet dreams about BMWs. That said, I do own a Mini Cooper and it's a fun car to drive. I will also say I bought it used and paid cash money, on the spot, for it. Spent less on it than I would've spent on a Toyota or Honda, and it replaced a used Saturn I had for several years. It's a good city car that gets good mileage. I do agree with others that how someone maintains whatever they drive can be an important indicator of character and habits.
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