She gave me her first AND last name when I asked for her number...significant?

[AllofThis]

I am trying to figure out if this girl was truly into me. The other night I was at a bar and noticed that the waitress was very cute. She was our waitress and I couldn't help but notice that when she was serving my friend and me, she only made eye contact at me. I didn't read too much into it, but I started thinking about asking her out on a date. About an hour or so later a few friends showed up and we left. I pretty much chickened out of asking her. We went to a bar on the other side of the street and my friends did nothing more than heckle me about asking for her number. So, to show that I was confident in doing it, I went back into the bar and waited for her to go by. Yeah, it may have appeared a little creepy just standing there and waiting for her, but I had no other option. So, she went by and I said her first name (which she told me earlier). I asked her, "Hey -----, are you dating someone right now?" She said, "no." I said, confidently, "well, I would like to take you on a date." She smiled and asked, "are you serious?" I, of course, said, "yes." She said, "Ok, let me give you my number." She went back to an area and came back about 20 seconds later with a piece of paper, which provided her number plus her first and last name. I didn't really think about it too much at the time, but I thought it was weird that she included her last name. Does this mean that she was actually into me? The only problem is that I have called twice and no answer or call back. The second time I left a safe message stating something like, "hey, it's ------- from the bar the other night, I was really hoping that we can do something this week. If you would like to, give me a call or text"--and I left my number. When I call the number, it doesn't go straight to voicemail, but rather rings quite a few times, then voicemail. So, I guess that means she isn't completely ignoring me. What do you guys think? It has been a few days and no return call or text. Should I just say it is a loss or keep thinking that there may be something wrong with her phone. lol. Thanks in advance. I would like some advice because I got really excited about the number due to her incredible cuteness!

[Vet]

Does this mean that she was actually into me?

 

No, that she gave you her number means that she was into you. You've called twice, left a message, and haven't heard anything back. Jesus man, how many times have you tried to call her? She hasn't returned your call, so chalk it up as a loss.

 

Next time don't wait 20 minutes for someone to give you her number. If she leaves and isn't back in thirty seconds with a pen or number in hand, that's a loss.

[AllofThis]

....it was 20 seconds. No minutes involved. Who would wait 20 minutes?

[Un-Conventional]

As for the first and last name thing, i wouldn't read too much into that. I don't think it signifies she does or doesn't like you, some people just introduce themselves or make sure people they meet know there first and last name.

 

Now for the calling and no call back you've callled twice and left a message you've done all u can, u just have to chalk it up as a loss. But no biggie because its her loss.

[MadDriver]

To answer the OP's question, a first and last name in this context would be not unusual. She sounds like a fairly young person; young people in school are always used to writing their first and last names on their assignments. If you hand a high school student or college student a piece of paper and tell them "write your name", the first and last come out in one continuous motion.

 

As young women gradually grow, they become more aware of the dangers of the world and start withholding the last name.

 

Then as they become more skilled seducers, they learn that giving a last name is a very subtle indicator of interest. Men also do this in a business context; I always introduce myself with first and last name, it helps people remember you and you sound more distinguished. Think Bill Clinton, Bill Gates, Bill O'Reilly. You never want to be "just Bill".

 

As far as the girl goes, I'd move on. Although I do not believe in many PUA tenets, when it comes to girls giving out phone numbers, Mystery really does have it figured out: if you go for the number straight off the bat, before building comfort, they just don't return your calls afterwards. Girls like when guys ask for their number -- they feel desired and adored. After they get that momentary satisfaction, your usefulness is over and you're already forgotten. That's why comfort building is so important.

[honeybee22]

if she doesnt return your call then take it as a loss she may just be busy on the other hand. i would give it another day and then see if she calls

[Thornton]

Usually I don't give my last name unless I really want to date the guy. Providing a last name means he can google me, look me up in the phone book, find out my address, etc. But I have to admit that such caution has developed with age, and when I was younger I was more likely to give out my last name without thinking about it.

 

I would give it a few more days, and then maybe leave one more message saying you'll assume she's not interested if you don't receive a reply. Perhaps leave your number and just ask her to text if she's changed her mind, just so you know.

[alphamale]

What do you guys think?

i think you shouldn't ask people who work for tips out on dates...

[SoulSearch_CO]

She gave me her first AND last name when I asked for her number...significant?

 

My first thought was that she must have dated Ruggy and realized her secrecy with her last name was a big turn-off for guys.

[Art_Critic]

i think you shouldn't ask people who work for tips out on dates...

 

Yeah.. I was thinking the same thing.. She was only doing her JOB and was doing it so well that she went all in with the name and phone number..

The name means he can go back and ask for her table again...

 

You cannot successfully date a person who makes their living serving and being nice to customers in food establishments..( not without some in such as you know people she works with or something of that nature )

The only thing that happens is the guy is separated from his cash and the girl asks for him to come back and chat her up...rinse and repeat..

[alphamale]

The only thing that happens is the guy is separated from his cash and the girl asks for him to come back and chat her up...rinse and repeat..

not unlike the nudie bar except their is no nudity

[BobSacamento]

Well if I get a first and last name I usually think it's a FB invite. Have you checked her out on FB?

 

Anyway, waitresses probably get asked out constantly.

[Art_Critic]

Anyway, waitresses probably get asked out constantly.

 

Talk to any one and they will tell you that they get asked out all day/night every night they work..

 

They know how to work it to their advantage..

 

I know some waitresses that wear fake wedding rings to stop the come ons..

An old friend of mine used to work at a Chili's on Friday night only and would get asked out at least 25 times each time she worked....

[AllofThis]

Well if I get a first and last name I usually think it's a FB invite. Have you checked her out on FB?

 

Anyway, waitresses probably get asked out constantly.

 

Being a young adult, naturally I looked on FB, but no dice. I agree with everyone as far as her being a waitress and constantly being asked out. Also, I agree that I should chalk it up as a loss. I just wanted to know everyone's opinions on the first and last name bit. Thanks for the replies everyone.