audioslave Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I've read over a few threads on here and it seems the most suggested thing to do to get over someone is to go no contact. Thats just really not an option for me at all right now. My feelings for this girl have not changed at all since I first realized how I felt about her. She felt the same about me but she says she doesnt now. So how can I get over her?I find my selft hinking about her everday, how I messed up my shot with her and when I see her with her boyfriend it hurts. We are very close freinds still at this point and I dont not want to lose that. So, any advice on how to get over these feelings would be great.
wild trillium Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Just try to maintain the friendship and start seeing other people yourself.Not easy but I think that sometimes it can help.Plus you may meet someone you like even more!
Odyssey Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Is this the same girl that you said you'd missed your chance with? You have got to keep yourself busy and meet new people. As long as she's got a bf, she's off limits in my eyes! But you could be waiting for a long time. . . I was in a worst situation, broke up with ex AND still had to sit opposite her at work. Makes moving on impossible! Look, you just have to be polite and chit-chat, but DIAL BACK those feelings. I still don't know how i'd coped. But it can be done. There are other girls out there for you. Life is too short to be waiting & hanging your heart for this girl. Get out there and start finding that confidence again.
LovieDove24 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I've read over a few threads on here and it seems the most suggested thing to do to get over someone is to go no contact. Thats just really not an option for me at all right now. My feelings for this girl have not changed at all since I first realized how I felt about her. She felt the same about me but she says she doesnt now. So how can I get over her?I find my selft hinking about her everday, how I messed up my shot with her and when I see her with her boyfriend it hurts. We are very close freinds still at this point and I dont not want to lose that. So, any advice on how to get over these feelings would be great. Ok so you say no contact is not an option, so what IS your only option? To sit on the sidelines while you are her punching bag? Which sounds more pleasant? You, alone, beating yourself up. Or you, on the sidelines, getting beat up (emotionally) by her, her boyfriend AND yourself. Hmmm....
Author audioslave Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 We have the same group of friends, we work at the same place and see eachother almost everyday so thats why no contact would not really work out. She is also a really good friend that I can count on, I do not want to just cut her out of my life. What you need to do is just accept what you have right now, my advice is try to find some things that will make you busy for you not to think of her everyday. Thats what I try to do but once I have nothing to occupy my mind with I end up thinking about it.
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