wow123 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I'm sure many of you know my story. She dumped me, came back temporarily and left again. She calls me the other day, I return the phone call (I know Big Mistake) and she never gets back to me. I'm assuming she either feels bad calling me bacause of her new relationship or he won't let her.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Doesn't matter why she isn't calling. She has a new bf, and she isn't calling.
Author wow123 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 I suppose it's a blessing in disguise. I have no choice but to go NC and move on.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 It IS a blessing. Because now her NEW bf is stuck with the girl who will leave him for another guy if she gets the chance. He's a damn fool and so is she. Untrustworthy, also. You should sit back and laugh at them both. Her ignorant bf has no idea what he's caught himself.
Author wow123 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 And little does he know she was seeing me while they were together. When I found out she had a bf she freaked and ran.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Oh, so she's a cheater on top of this all, too? You REALLY should be missing this honest, upstanding, wonderful girl. They are so hard to come by. Shame she got away! /end sarcasm
Author wow123 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 I hear myself saying the same things you are telling me but can't make myself believe it. I only remember how she was in the beginning, not how she has been since the end of our R. It's tough.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I'm right there with you. You just have to consciously tell yourself over and over again that the girl you loved is dead. The girl you THOUGHT she was, is dead. That isn't who she is, and no one else will ever see what you saw.
Odyssey Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Total NC all the way. You're not alone, we've all been there. Stay strong man! . . .one day at a time.
Author wow123 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 Thanks for the much needed advice. If a friend of mine were going through this I would think he were crazy...I must be.
Odyssey Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 lol. As a kid i remember my best friend went through a bad breakup and I'd laughed at him for been such a wuss and a cry baby...until it happened to me! Many times now and each time it still doesn't get any easier. But it WILL get better!
Darren09 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 yeah my friends are the same with me they dont get what it means to be in love with someone at all. I just get told to grow a pair! **** sake i have a pair or i would never of gotten into this situation lol. You need to see this girl for who she really is. stop dreamin about whats so good about her... shes a bitch!! stay no contact dont even try calling her shes done this to u!! show her how unacceptable that is and stay away! good luck bud
Author wow123 Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 It's amazing that someone could hurt me so badly and I still miss her. I just don't get it.
silic0ntoad Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Becuase "she" didn't hurt you. Who she has become hurt you. It's a paradox. People change. She changed. The love you had for "her" is not for who she is. Get my point?
Author wow123 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 I think so. I just regret listening to the words and not paying as much attention to her actions as she was pushing me away. Lesson Learned.
silic0ntoad Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Dude, I doubt you changed. In this case, it seems she grew outside of the relationship, which is sadly the case too often, and may have been in mine. If people can't grow together, they can't BE together.
Author wow123 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 Ya well the part that hurts the worst is that she found my "replacement" before leaving the relationship. How someone can tell you you're so perfect for them and then find someone else to replace you while still in the relationship blows my mind. It hurts. She is in another relationship and I am sitting here missing her. I guess that's just life.
Author wow123 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 A little update. She tried contacting me several times. I have managed to maintain NC. The messages didn't say anything that I wanted to hear so I felt this was best.
DogBrain Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Thanks. That was exactly what I needed to read this morning.
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