Paralyzed Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 So my ex broke up with me a few months back via email. After contacting me several times over the next two weeks she suddenly stopped. She was seeing someone. I tried to move on, and dated a few other girls. Eventually after two months my ex and I were back together. We both lied about being physical with the people we dated. I didn't believe her, but was happy with the illusion. She had booked a trip to Toronto and I took the opportunity that weekend to hang with friends. Apparently I didn't call or text her quick enough and she became upset. She broke up with me via voicemail. A week after she arrived home she emailed me "I wish we never met". I ignored it. A few days later while I was at a club she texted me to meet up. Like a love sick idiot I did. We were both so happy to see each other. Until we arrived home. She began to harass me about female friends I had added on facebook. She also told me what her friends opinions were of me. Some of these were male opinions from guys I had never met. The arguing ensued as we were in bed. At this point she said "we have both done things we aren't proud of while we were broke up". I was in shock. With very little prodding she admitted sleeping with someone else. I saw red. I literally threw her out of the bed and demanded she leave. I let loose with a mouthfull of expetives. After calming down, she stayed. The next day she acted as if nothing had happened. I ended up apologizing for my behavior. I felt terrible for being physical. I spend the next two days with images in my head of her and her date in bed together. The only thing she would say was "i don't know why I told you that". I know why she told me. It was to hurt me as much as possible. At her place 2 days later, I broke down in tears and told her how much I loved her, but that I couldn't be with her. We had made love many times in the few days back together, but it was obvious something had changed. I struggled to enjoy it. She cried a little when I broke up with her, but she didn't put up too much of a fight. She asked me to leave and I did. Now almost 2 weeks later, I am the one in a mess. I have broken contact via text messaging twice in the last week. She has responded with cold short answers. I have reason to believe she is now spending her nights with another man. And of course, I am devastated. What can I do? I can't believe I hoovered myself back into this relationship. I have been the only constant in her life for 2 years. She doesn't have any real family support. But, I'm the one she hurts the most.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I have been the only constant in her life for 2 years. She doesn't have any real family support. This says it all. This girl is very troubled, and most likely residual rage towards her parents (or lack of) has manifested in you, in her eyes. You are being blamed for things you've never done. Don't talk to her again.
gavinus Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 You need to move on. She is not your responsibility and your relationship sounds love/hate with each other. I understand it is addictive but every second you spend in this dysfunctional relationship is a second you are missing out on the one meant for you, my advice go NC, stay NC and look out for number one...you, be strong
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