Bobby2010 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I'm curious to hear about other's gut feeling stories. Was the gut feeling spot on (like mine), or was it something else? I knew in my gut something really, really bad was about to happen, for months. Although I was assured everything was top notch in the relationship, I just knew something wasn't right. Needles to say I was/am 100% convinced my gut was telling me the truth. Is it a good thing our instincts do this? I'm not sure. I just know I never want that feeling again. So, so horrible.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I knew in my gut something really, really bad was about to happen, for months. Of course a self fulfilling prophecy came true... Of course something bad is going to happen when you wreak of fear, desperation, control, etc. And it doesn't mean you ever consciously did anything. Self Fulfilling prophecies tend to be the most prevalent in the subconscious. Next time, confront your fears head on. Try to figure out why you feel that way. What is missing, that you have this fear? Then discuss it. Gut feelings are completely bs, not accurate at all. It's a lamens term for unwarranted fear, etc.
Thaddeus Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Personally, I'm extremely wary of 'gut feelings' because they've been wrong (for me) just as often as they've been right. And I've been blindsided plenty of times when my 'gut feeling' should have kicked in and warned me of some imminent problem/issue/danger. Example: A few years ago I was seeing this very attractive divorced single mom. She was an absolute stunner, and LOVED sex. (This is after my yoga instructor friend, for those who follow these sorts of things.) We discussed everything, and I never had any hint whatsoever of anything odd. Well, it turns out that I was only one man among a cluster of other men (at least two others, and maybe more) that she was sleeping with. Now, if we hadn't discussed exclusivity, then that probably would have been OK. But we had discussed it, we had agreed to be exclusive, yet behind my back she was bonking at least two other guys. I had no idea whatsoever that this was going on. I was completely and utterly blind-sided. My 'gut feeling' gave me no warning whatsoever. Naturally, when I discovered what was happening - quite by accident (she mistook me on the phone for someone else - now THAT was an interesting conversation) - I dropped her a$$ so fast it made her head spin. Lots of emails and teary phone calls from her made no difference whatsoever. She had proven herself to be a liar, and I won't tolerate liars. But the point is I had no hint at all that something was wrong. My 'gut feeling' or 'intuition' or whatever you want to call it let me down. Moral of the story: Your gut feeling will be wrong as often as it's right. You may as well flip a coin for all the good it's going to do you.
Odyssey Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 My gut-feeling speaks the truth everytime, i need the toilet Seriously though, for me it tends to be a mixed bag. In terms of all my relationships so far, it has been wrong. Maybe i was mistaking my emotional feelings for instinct, i just don't know, but i think it's more to do with those rose-tinted glasses than anything else. But once had the heart jumping feeling to take a different route home than my 2 friends after school. The next day I'd found out they were attacked by some drunk tramps. They were both very lucky not to get cut up. That's the only true gut-feeling that i will always remember. Maybe i was too chicken to go through the under-pass, who knows. I have to agree with Thaddeus though. Instincts can be right & wrong; people who believe it just tend to remember all the right ones. On a different note, i do get shakes/shivers sometimes (as if someone's walking over your grave) - don't know what that's about?!?
manaja Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I sort of knew my one of my exs was on some sort of rebound , the week after we started to see each other , she started to bring pyjamas down and toothbrushs round to my house, she was talking about going away on holiday with me..etc..I just wasnt convinced , she was overcommitting too quick, a matter of weeks (5) later she was gone, just as quick as she had come...Im not saying it was a gut feeling, but logic worked it out for me.
Odyssey Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Manaja, lucky you were thinking with your head and not those stupid feelings.
manaja Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Manaja, lucky you were thinking with your head and not those stupid feelings. I got stung by someone on rebound a few years ago, theyre either , too over interested too soon or way to distant and not interested at all..thats what ive found with them , so im just wary of women bringin toothbrushs down to mine after a couple of dates...unless of course theyre planning on movin in, thats another thing ..lol.!
Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I 100% trust in my gut instincts. It hasn't been wrong so far. The only times that I've had problems, are when I've ignored it or tried to rationalize it away. Your gut feelings have been honed over thousands upon thousands of years of mankind. It's there for a reason so use it wisely.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Your gut feelings have been honed over thousands upon thousands of years of mankind. It's there for a reason so use it wisely. TBF, frankly your post is stupid and is backed by ZERO scientific evidence. I hope no one takes TBF's word as any more than a grain of sand amongst a massive beach.
lsb Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 based on my experience. my gut feelings always came about because it was feelings i had from the start that just built up. so i think gut feelings is just another way of saying you never really thought it was gonna work out anyway but you tried.
skreen23 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Gut feelings are what happens when your brain processes lots of different information and events and this comes out as a "gut feeling." There has been scientific research about this and it has been explained as a survival mechanism. The brain quickly goes over the information and goes "Aha, this is...." so you dont even have to think about it.
Odyssey Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Skreen, kinda like a dream is processing all the thoughts you had throughout the day? ...which reminds me, once woke up feeling i was gonna be late for work. Then looked at my alarm and i had an impossible 5mins to get ready! (I'd forgot to set the alarm clock back an hour - stupid daylight saving time; gee we're not ancient farmers anymore).
Beeotch Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I always trust mine...the bad part as you said though, is that anxiety...you try to ignore your gut but it is persistent and you just KNOW something is off...worst yet when your gut is telling you about something you don't want to hear. Right now though my gut is telling me some stuff that is more positive.....so I'm seeing how that goes. My gut hasn't been wrong yet. Lots of stuff for example, that my ex "revealed" to me....were things I already felt and knew but never said stuff about.
Beeotch Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I 100% trust in my gut instincts. It hasn't been wrong so far. The only times that I've had problems, are when I've ignored it or tried to rationalize it away. Your gut feelings have been honed over thousands upon thousands of years of mankind. It's there for a reason so use it wisely. Same with me.... I am not gonna propose that for everyone it is the same...but for me personally, it is ALWAYS correct. So I trust mine personally.
manaja Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 based on my experience. my gut feelings always came about because it was feelings i had from the start that just built up. so i think gut feelings is just another way of saying you never really thought it was gonna work out anyway but you tried. Well explained , I had a feeling from the start with the rebounder ex girlfriend, I just wasnt convinced, too interested too quick, making plans etc...its was me who thought somethings not right here, so when I saw her riding round in her boyfriends car , it didnt suprise me, she saw me look straight at her, she still came round the following day and took me out bought me my dinner, slept with me then left....lol...I never even challenged her being sat in the car with her boyfriend, I just thought stuff it, she never brought it up either...strange carry on at times ...
Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 TBF, frankly your post is stupid and is backed by ZERO scientific evidence. I hope no one takes TBF's word as any more than a grain of sand amongst a massive beach.That's not a very civil way to discuss your opinion. Perhaps you'd like to reword it or apologize for being rude. Gut feelings are what happens when your brain processes lots of different information and events and this comes out as a "gut feeling." There has been scientific research about this and it has been explained as a survival mechanism. The brain quickly goes over the information and goes "Aha, this is...." so you dont even have to think about it. http://www.livescience.com/health/090208-gut-instincts.html Here's one scientific study about it. Same with me.... I am not gonna propose that for everyone it is the same...but for me personally, it is ALWAYS correct. So I trust mine personally. I can only give my personal opinion and experiences with it.
2sunny Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 my gut feeling is rarely wrong. it's the way i process information through my gut, my heart and my head. if the info being processed doesn't make sense or doesn't add up to logical reasoning - something triggers me to look a lot more closely. the longer i ignore my gut feeling - the more obvious the situation starts to become more glaring to me. it just keeps nagging at me in a very bad way until i investigate why it seems so out of whack. fortunately i am more in tune with the way i process info - and it doesn't take much for me to recognize why i have the feeling - and what action i need to take to set the situation right, for me.
PhantomSunrise Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Gut feelings usually = self fulfilling prophecies. Fail
Trialbyfire Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Gut feelings usually = self fulfilling prophecies. FailWhere's the scientific theory that backs up your words? Also, where's your apology?
Author Bobby2010 Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 Next time, confront your fears head on. Try to figure out why you feel that way. What is missing, that you have this fear? Then discuss it. I did. And every time I was told everything was fine, which I eventually found out wasn't true.
2sunny Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I did. And every time I was told everything was fine, which I eventually found out wasn't true. are you going off of words or actions? big difference - the action will be the true indicator... the words can lead you to be suspicious... if they aren't aligned - it usually triggers me to look more closely at what is really going on. words are meaningless if the action isn't showing what the words are saying.
Beeotch Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 my gut feeling is rarely wrong. it's the way i process information through my gut, my heart and my head. if the info being processed doesn't make sense or doesn't add up to logical reasoning - something triggers me to look a lot more closely. the longer i ignore my gut feeling - the more obvious the situation starts to become more glaring to me. it just keeps nagging at me in a very bad way until i investigate why it seems so out of whack. fortunately i am more in tune with the way i process info - and it doesn't take much for me to recognize why i have the feeling - and what action i need to take to set the situation right, for me. U took the words out of my mouth...that is exactly what happens with me. If I feel something is off....it is off. I just need to investigate exactly why it is off but once I feel it...it is.
Wings Of Love Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I'm not sure whether to trust gut feelings or not. Six months ago, a few days before my ex left me I started feeling like something bad was going to happen. I tried everything but I couldn't shake the feeling. Eventually I asked my ex if we were ok. He assured me everything was fine, that he loved me so much and wasn't going anywhere. He left me later that very same day. =/ But for the last two or three months I've had this gut feeling that he still loves me and will come back to me eventually, despite me having cut off contact with him. And yet he's been with his third girlfriend since me for nearly four months, so why do I still have this feeling? If he was coming back, wouldn't he be here by now? =/ So I don't know if gut feelings are right or not. It was that first time round and I've been right about a lot of other, unrelated things too, but this latest one? I don't see how it's possible.
Beeotch Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I'm not sure whether to trust gut feelings or not. Six months ago, a few days before my ex left me I started feeling like something bad was going to happen. I tried everything but I couldn't shake the feeling. Eventually I asked my ex if we were ok. He assured me everything was fine, that he loved me so much and wasn't going anywhere. He left me later that very same day. =/ But for the last two or three months I've had this gut feeling that he still loves me and will come back to me eventually, despite me having cut off contact with him. And yet he's been with his third girlfriend since me for nearly four months, so why do I still have this feeling? If he was coming back, wouldn't he be here by now? =/ So I don't know if gut feelings are right or not. It was that first time round and I've been right about a lot of other, unrelated things too, but this latest one? I don't see how it's possible. Well only time will tell.... You really don't know if you're right until it happens....
Thornton Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 My gut feeling is usually right. I knew my first bf was going to dump me, even though he claimed he was just too busy to see me, and dump me he did... the same for bf #3 who just seemed a little cold towards me, I had a feeling he was going to dump me and he did. I knew somehow that bfs #4 and #5 weren't being straight with me, and they both turned out to be cheating. Of course that was years ago! More recently, I had a gut feeling that my ex wasn't being straight with me and wasn't really into our relationship, and I kept kidding myself otherwise... I still had a feeling that something was going on, so I dug and dug, and I wouldn't let it go even though I found nothing. It took me about three months from when my suspicions started to finally track something down: he claimed he had lost his Facebook password and had never accepted my friend request, and it turned out that he was listed as being in a relationship with a girl who lived in another city! This girl had gone away to study in a city a thousand miles away, and she thought they were having an LDR, while all the time he was carrying on with me behind her back. His Facebook page was set to private so I couldn't see it, but hers wasn't... during the course of my digging I examined his friends' Facebook pages looking for proof that he had logged in and had therefore lied about having lost his password, and I found out that this girl was listed as being in a relationship with him. Cheaters always get caught out one way or another... I find it amazing that I must have picked up on some subtle clues even though everything seemed fine, and I was so convinced that I continued the fruitless search for three months before I finally caught him out.
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