john1988 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I split up with my ex after a bad break up and I'm having difficulty meeting people I have a spark with, do you think it's something that comes after a few months or should I have it instantly? I usually end up cutting things short after a few dates if I don't feel it in fear of leading someone on. Is this the right attitude to adopt or should I give things more time?
digitalwizard Posted August 20, 2009 Posted August 20, 2009 Ever seen "He's Just Not That Into You"? In the words of Alex (I think), "the spark is just a myth, made up by guys as an excuse not to have to call you back." Actually, that's just a joke. Seriously, the spark is absolutely real for both men and women. I met my wife online 9 years ago and we had a spark in our first conversation. I met her for the first time about 6 months later and the spark just got stronger. The spark is more like an intuition. It's a feeling of a connection between you and the other person. It's a feeling of comfort. It's a feeling of familiarity. Before I met my wife, I was a shy, backward troll, that never left the house. I was terrified of people and didn't want to date b/c I didn't want to deal with the rejection. (I had a strange upbringing...'nuff said) Anyway, I flew over to meet her on my b-day and I was nervous for about 5 minutes and after those first moments, I knew that she was 'the one'. I can't even put into words how strongly I felt about her. If you can describe it then it's not a 'spark'. It's THAT powerful. I felt like I was connecting with her soul and she was connecting with mine. And to put anyone's theories to rest, it had NOTHING to do with sex. We both waited until we were married to have sex. The connection was on some unknown spiritual level, I would say. To this day, I can't name another soul/person that I feel more comfortable with. If I had one person that I could choose to be alone with on a desert island or a barron planet, I wouldn't even have to think for 1 second. I know who it would be. One other thing, the spark gives birth to a flame, which gives birth to an explosion. In this explosion, you will discover true unconditional love. Good luck finding the spark. It is well worth the work/time it takes to ignite it. -Wiz
Author john1988 Posted August 20, 2009 Author Posted August 20, 2009 I'm beginning to think I will never experience it and I think most people won't. I envy you dude, great to hear stories like yours though, it gives us all hope thanks for sharing.
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