Ilovecake Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Is posting on a message board forum where your ex posts as well considered contact? I mean if we do not acknowledge each other but can still see what each person posts. I'm asking because I have him blocked everywhere I could on the internet, have stopped hanging out with and talking to people we both know, have stopped going to places he might be at, have not had any phone, text or email contact. I just feel like this site is the last thing I have left of the last 5 years of my life and have a lot of friends who post there, it’s the only way I stay in touch with those friends. I feel it's unfair that I might have to give that up as well because even just seeing his login name pop up still bothers me. He knows this but is not willing to stop posting there. He says if I'm hurting that's my problem not his.
Road To Joy Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Well, LS was and is an important part of my recovery. There's so much support here, it's extremely helpful. I do not recommend leaving the forum simply because he's here, but I do believe reading his posts is being 'in contact'. NC is completely eliminating them from your life, which allows you to think about them less and less. Reading their posts sadly makes you think about them more, and they will most likely hurt you. This will be a setback in your healing process, and that's something we definitely don't want. I would suggest sticking to your section. Is he all over LS, or does he stay put in one section (for example, the water-cooler)? If he stays in his little area, then you can stay in your little area (at least until you're over him) and I see no problem. You won't see each other's posts. As for keeping in contact with friends on here, there's private messaging.
Author Ilovecake Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 Not this website. Completely different, music related website.
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