Star Gazer Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 What I'm saying is that with the idea that there are so many options out there, people often don't ever come to a decision on what is valuable and what is not. I disagree. A decision is made regarding what is valuable and what is not everyday. If someone is in your life, they are valuable to you - today. If you are in someone else's life, you are valuable to them - today. That said, value can change, depending on events, circumstances, etc. People, relationships, homes/houses, jobs... are all disposable. But I think we all know what is valuable to us on any given day.
Author Isolde Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 There's a lot of stances people can take on this, dependent on the framework they use to make choices on who to spend time with, who to stay in touch with, etc. But my basic argument remains that a certain something has become diluted in today's society, where people don't put as much effort into friendships and relationships that have potential and in consequence, initiate a cycle of disposability where everyone ends up saying, "Oh well, next!" Ironically, because of this, it's probably now more important than ever to be acutely aware, of what kind of people you want to be in your life, and to have firm boundaries. Incidentally, I've had friendships where sometimes, it felt like we were going back and forth between being valuable in each other's lives, and not. I think that's normal. I also agree with TBF that often the issue is simply the perception of disposability, or being unable to communicate in the same languages of friendship/love.
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