boogieboy Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Our last argument was this maybe this will help to shed a little more light on things ... it went like this Ive had a very sore foot lately think Ive injured my Achilles heal to be exact. Well I was soaking my foot in a little tub of water along comes Mr joker and takes a piss in the water after I told him NOT TO... I was again furious I was in pain and asked this person not to do this he ignored me and pissed in it still then tried to convince me he had changed it witch he hadn't so I had to struggle and change the water myself to be certain. Still think its all light hearted joking guys? things like this are is what is making me think this person had no respect for me not one off stupid comments its the hole picture I guess.. Eh, apparently youre dating Steve-O. If you told him this hurts you already and he always creeps it back in, then obviously he likes doing it, so you know what to do.
MadDriver Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 hes 31 by the way so I give him a pass on allot of stuff but this was too much! SpanksTheMonkey, how old are you? A 31 year-old should know better than say that... Young people get the immaturity card, he has no excuse!
Art_Critic Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 I say that the next time you see him naked go up and stroke him and then whisper in his ear that he has the smallest cock you have ever seen and even your ex's was bigger and harder. .. seriously.. he needs a taste of his own medicine. What a dickhead he is.. and honestly.. you might think about how much of a deal breaker this is to you because if some girl started calling me ugly and insulting me.. joking or not she would be gone.. Nothing in the humor books allows a man or woman to disrespect their SO.. I hope you work it all out.. but honestly it seems he is just a dickhead...
Author SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 This guy doesn't have a filter or he just see's you as one of the guys. Either way, you've got to fight the female urge to hold in his comments until they explode later on in life. If he says something, even as a joke, call him out! Right then and there. It's the only way he'll learn. If he refuses to learn, then you need to lay it on the line for him. Or you can fight fire with fire. If he wants to see you as one of the guys, fight back. Next time he says you are getting uglier or fatter you look fire back with, "Yeah, and your dick is getting smaller by the day. This morning I wasn't sure what was pressing up against me, your morning wood or a half roll of pennies." Hit him where it hurts. See how he likes it. Is it childish? Yes. But some people only respond by escalation of force. Ask your guy friends for dick insults. They've got loads of them. Ive often wondered the same thing if he sees me as one of his male buddies witch considering hes never had a mature relationship with a female until now is quite possible. I can see hes learning every day if that makes any sense I have now adopted the you hurt me I hurt you method. For example he likes to rough house alto no prob so do I but he takes it to far and I hurt back big time! its working he must be a very literal learner I guess.. Sheesh, this guy just sounds like a real jerk. Sounds very immature. No guy has ever urinated on me, and I definitely would find that disrespectful. The other comment about you being ugly is just dumb on his part. I remember this guy I was seeing called me a "stupid git." Now, he's british and it was meant as a chummy type thing, but I really did not like it one bit. It really rubbed me the wrong way. If this guy knows he's being disrespectful and he also knows you're going to stay with him regardless, he has no reason to stop. Truth is, it says more about him than it does about you. People who respect themselves show respect for other people. It sounds like you guys just aren't compatible. Surprisingly hes the only guy Ive really felt I have connected to so far in my life. I feel I can tell him anything and thats so nice we do connect in every other way other then this childish odd streak he has! I can honestly say its the only fault that bugs me we have worked on/Thu a few others that were much worse/serious so I don't feel its a total loss just yet... SpanksTheMonkey, how old are you? A 31 year-old should know better than say that... Young people get the immaturity card, he has no excuse! I'm 31 as well I also have thought of something as I'm sitting here typing this. Ive had others who have just casually met him tell me they think hes a little slow. Now don't get me wrong he functions like any other adult but he dose have a air about him that could lead to that conclusion. Ive excepted the possibility so I don't know if thats also a factor hes never told me of any disability's he has so again I suspect but I dunno... Not like I can ask oh honey are you slow? lol I say that the next time you see him naked go up and stroke him and then whisper in his ear that he has the smallest cock you have ever seen and even your ex's was bigger and harder. .. seriously.. he needs a taste of his own medicine. What a dickhead he is.. and honestly.. you might think about how much of a deal breaker this is to you because if some girl started calling me ugly and insulting me.. joking or not she would be gone.. Nothing in the humor books allows a man or woman to disrespect their SO.. I hope you work it all out.. but honestly it seems he is just a dickhead... Thanks art honestly tho I may have painted this guy in too neg light as I was quite upset last night as I typed this thread out. in his defense a little he can be the sweetest guy you would ever meet and he dose have a good heart! Its like he just gets carried away at times I can see it its like he loses control mostly when were play fighting and stuff. I can some times calm him down and he snaps out of it and He also rocks back and forth at times and makes quick odd movements clapping and such epically if he gets excited.. Again I'm wondering if all that isn't a symptom of something else deeper...? No hes not a dick head theres just more to him I cant tell you how many times he apologized last night and again today so well see... Actually if any one may recognize any of the things Ive mentioned above? And can shed some light on it for me. I would be very grateful its just oddish behavior for an adult but again I wouldn't confront or judge him on it. As I don't think he would know or if he even realizes anyways himself Thanks for the replies guys
SoulSearch_CO Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Not like I can ask oh honey are you slow? lol And why not? He called you ugly, dude. Sounds like turn-about is fairplay, IMO.
Author SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 And why not? He called you ugly, dude. Sounds like turn-about is fairplay, IMO. Yes but as I said I believe he may have some underlining mental illness as others have also made the same observation. If thats true what would also being so cruel thoughtless solve? don't get me wrong he didn't get away Scott free soul. I gave him a barrel of **** last night for that comment he def realized it wasn't acceptable hence the apologies galore!! Its just if he is I'll and I did know that was a possibility before I started dating him then I will need to figure things out a bit I think before getting overly angry all the time. As perhaps this is the one time that the guy honestly doesn't intend on being an ass he just needs to be understood and to learn..
Art_Critic Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 Well maybe my dickhead observation was too much then I can some times calm him down and he snaps out of it and He also rocks back and forth at times and makes quick odd movements clapping and such epically if he gets excited.. Asperger syndrome, and maybe Tourette syndrome have some of those characteristics... He might have a mild case of one of them.. People that have Asperger's have trouble with social cues.. which is exactly what him calling you ugly could be all about.. he just doesn't see that aspect of what he says.. I really don't know much about Aspies' or people that have Tourette's though.. I do know that Tourette's is treatable with medication. Good Luck Spanks..
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