adidas6380 Posted November 16, 2003 Posted November 16, 2003 ok, my girlfriend just broke up with me lat week. we had been with each other since the summer. i decided to take my summer vacation to where she was so i could ask her out on the beach. and i also laft early to be with her at home. everything was going great, or so it seemed. a few weeks ago i noticed that things didnt really seem to be going to well. something seemed wrong with her. so itried everything. i went and got her roses for holloween to match her costume. and i also buaght her a rose on a feild trip and gve it to her after school. but things still didnt seem right so i asked her if something was wrong with us. she said know and i asked ehr how she felt about our relationship and she said that it felt so much stronger then before. i dont know. but last friday i was supose to take her to the football game. and i came down to my computer and she left me a message saying that i didnt have to pick her up and that she was just going with her friends. i knew something was wrong then. so i talked to her best friends and asked her if she had said anything about us and she said yes. so then i asked her if she was going to break up with me and she said she didnt know. so i talked to her and she did it. she told me she felt it was getting too serious and that was it. i felt horrible the rest of that day. i stayed home that night and just sat there thinking about everything. i didnt know what to say. i didnt get any sleep that night. i just sat in my bed staring at the ceiling. so the next morning i wrote her an e-mail asking her what went wrong and why she didnt ask me about it before she did this. and i asked ehr if she could give me another chance.she read it and her friends was on the phone with her and i was talking to her friend online. her friends said that she was speachless. she never wrote me back and she wouldnt talk to me. i went on through the day trying to keep my mind of her but i couldnt. i finally went out and then i came back and she had left a message on my computer saying that she wasnt going to ride to school with me anymore. i just got up, left my house and kept walking. i walked for about 2 hours. till the point that i couldnt feel my arms anymore. then i called someone to pick me up. i got home and had nothing to do but thinbk about her so then i ecided to go to a movie with my older sister. i went to the movie but i couldnt concentrate on it. all i thought about was how i use to hold her in the movies. so when the movie was done i told my sister that i couldnt stay and i left. i got home and wrote her another e-mail. i said in it that i was pretty much giving up. that i couldnt change the way she feels about me and i dont know why i tried. i talked to her brother and told him to tell her to read her mail. she did. this time she wrote me back. she said in it she never said that she wouldnt give me another chance and that she would love to but she just wanted some time to be with herself and her friends. and she told me that she will tell me when she is ready. i didnt know what to think about this. later we started talking online and we talked about our relationship the things that were wrong and there werent that many things. so i thought we were ok and i got her to still ride with me to school. that night i had a dream that we were just sitting in her room watching tv just like we use too. i woke up feeling so weird. so i pick her up and we dont say anything at all. during schoolo i couldnt think about anything but her. i couldnt concentrate on my work so i fianlly left class and went to the pool to talk to the teacher down there, a good friend of the family. she told me that i could stay there for as long as i needed. so i did. then i went to lunch and tlked to someone there. then she came up to me like nothing ever happened. i didnt ezpect this from her. so i was like whatever and just went along with it. i talked to a lot of poeple about this and they were telling me different things. some were saying that i need to forget her and that i am too good for her. and other are telling me to hold on to it. i was so confused a this point. so on wed at school i tried to be cool with her but she seemed to be ignoring me. so i just left her and her friend. but during class i wrote her a note telling her exactly how i felt and what everyone is sayign about it. i told her i was confused about everything and that i did know what i should do. i said i didnt know if i was wasting my time or if she was really going to come back to me. it took me the whole period to wite this note. so during the class change i gave her the note and walked away. after htat class i saw her and asked ehr if she read the note. she said yes and nothing else. so i asked ehr if she had anything to say and she said that she was still thinking. so i just finally said that when she is done thinking i will be outside with my brother and walked away. she never came out so i walked in to go buy a water and looked over to where she was sitting and i saw her friends reading the note and she was crying. i felt horrible. then after school she came out to me car and didnt say anything. she just sat there with her face in her hands. i didnt know what to do. so when we got to her house i asked her about it again. she started balling then. she said that she is going through a really hard time right now and she doesnt know what she wants anymore. we sat there crying for a while then i pulled her to me and she clenched onto me. we sat there holding each other for about 15 min with out saying anything. then i let go and told her that i am sorry about all of this. she still didnt say anythjing she just stayed there with her head on my shoulder. then i had to go and she said "Chris i love you but i just need a few weeks." then i said i loved her too. that is the first time we have ever said that to each other. so how could things have gotten to serious. i dont know. but i left and we didnt talk again that day. then the next day we talked like nothing had happened. so i thought everything was going to be ok. but i was still talking to people that were telling me to forget it. i didnt want to listen to them. the i was talking to someone that knows her pretty well and she told her on monday that she was going to get back with me sooner or later. so i was feeling pretty good. then friday she and her best friends were going to the ice house to go ice skating. that is where we had our first date. i was talking to her about it saying how much fun it was and how stupid i lloked out there. she said that i looked so cute that night. i said the only thing that was keeping us up or at least me we us. she laughed. and she said that that night was so fun. we talked from about 3 to 6:30. we talked about he good times we had and stuff like that. i told her that in the hauted house the reason i wasnt scared was because i was laughing at her and her friends the whole time. it was funny how they were so scared. but online we started flirting like we used to. then i went out and didnt get back till about 1:30 that mornign so i didnt get to talk to her that night again or the next day because whe went out of town. but i tlaked to her friends that she went to the ice house with and i asked her if she said anying lat night and she said she did but she wouldnt ell me what she siad. but now i dont know what i can do to make sure she does come back to me. she means so much to me. no other girl has made me feel the way she did. i would do anything for her. she is so different from all the other girls from my school and that what i like about her. her personality is the best. she doesnt care what anyone says about her, she just blows thm off. she handles everything great. i love her so much and i dont know if i can go on without her. but i need to know what to do now so i can play my cards right and make sure htat she comes back to my arms. i need some good advice from this point. please help!
Arabess Posted November 16, 2003 Posted November 16, 2003 All you can do is give her the time she requested. You can't EVER make someone come back to you regardless of how you feel about them. Just because you have a great relationship with someone.....never indicates it's going to last forever. It sounds like she doesn't want to lose you...yet she isn't ready to give up her freedom. She is also probably trying to avoid hurting your feelings. If you really care about her.....you'll step back...look at the relationship from another angle.....and decide if it's time for you to move on or just wait to see what happens.
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