manaja Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 A few days before my girlfriend dumped me for the second time (3 months ago) to go back to her ex ...again !, she told me," its not you , its me," i said , "ok thats a finishing line", she totally denied it and said we were cool and she wasnt going anywhere...on the sat eve she was texting me telling me where she wanted sex and in what positions, on the sun when I saw her , she brought a sexy basque round and said " il leave it at yours ", we had sex, if you can call it that, she muttered " do you want to go to bed ? " I thought is this pity sex or what ? There was something not right with her, then the day after on the mon , she dumps me.. didnt tell me , just totally ignored me..an goes back to her ex ...my question is , why did she build a picture up of security to comfort me and get rid of any doubts I may of had , just to pull it away from me ? she's not a child , she's a woman of 51..I sent her a crappy text the day after, but nothing since, I have stayed totally nc...she text for her hair dryer basque an dvd a month ago, my son dropped them off and thats it..why build an illusion of security and comfort up when she knew she was going ?
O_angelsparkle_O Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 She's messed up. Unfortunately for you...I think I'm going to put you in the category of a very nice, giving, guy. This is only unfortunate, because your gf/ex seems selfish and a child...even at 50. You can do better and you know it. There are many classy women out there who will give you amazing sex, be fun, and won't act like children. Move on!
carhill Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Let's resolve here to make this the 'two strikes and you're out' rule and leave this one alone permanently. IMO, and I've never had this happen personally, if a woman leaves me to go back to her ex, then we're done, forever. No if's, and's or cows
Author manaja Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 While she was with me this second time she kept in touch with her ex, it just makes me think that she was using me by proving to him she had moved on. she previously had done all the chasing with her ex, he was always going back to his wife, but a year ago, my ex dumped him because she was fed up with him and after a while became buds with me again, he obviously became curious as to where she had gone and they eventually got back as mates again meeting up for drinks an textin each other. .we were supposed to be going on holiday together, he offered to take her to egypt ,promising it was her and only her he wanted to be with he told her it took a year to realise how much she actually meant to him and was regretting the way he had treated her , he also , had a series of non productive relationships since they fell out whilst trying to move on ! I am trying to move on , its not the first time in my life ive been duped or dumped...lol....it doesnt get any easier !
LovieDove24 Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 She had sex with you for two reasons 1) She was using you and 2) To make herself feel better. She wanted to make clear in her mind whether or not you were the right choice for her.
alphamale Posted August 19, 2009 Posted August 19, 2009 ...she text for her hair dryer basque an dvd a month ago, my son dropped them off and thats it dude you should have kept that stuff, thats why she left you, you're too "nice"
Author manaja Posted August 19, 2009 Author Posted August 19, 2009 dude you should have kept that stuff, thats why she left you, you're too "nice" Lol , id actually put the stuff in the bin, but when she text, i felt bad about doin it so my son dropped it off at hers, I must admit im glad shes got it back , I was angry when I put it in the bin, so I probably would of felt worse now if she hadnt got the stuff back.
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