New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE? I have my own idea of what the difference is, and how to (ideally) act in each situation. However, from another thread, it seems that people disagree with how I personally feel, so I'm really curious what other people think the distinction is, and how to act and treat the other person in both of these situations.
dreamergrl Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 JMO but I think... NSA is with a person you have no relationship with other then sex. Pretty much like an on call booty call. FWB is more so a actual friend you have added benefits with. I think you would still hang out with them and do other things, in addition to the sex. I think this is a way to fill the void of wanting a relationship but not having all the responsibilities of having a relationship.
EddieN Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I think they're like DWI and DUI - there's really no significant difference, just 2 ways to say the same thing.
Author New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 JMO but I think... NSA is with a person you have no relationship with other then sex. Pretty much like an on call booty call. FWB is more so a actual friend you have added benefits with. I think you would still hang out with them and do other things, in addition to the sex. I think this is a way to fill the void of wanting a relationship but not having all the responsibilities of having a relationship. Maybe this is why I'm so confused? Cuz I honestly loved my FWB situation, because it honestly felt almost exactly like being in a relationship, minus actually being in a relationship. Plus there was a don't ask don't tell thing, and no jealousy of the fact that the other person was free to do as they wished...
Trialbyfire Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Aren't NSAs complete strangers that know nothing about each other, who hookup and that's it? Where FWBs are two people who know each other and have chosen to solely hookup? This is similar to what dreamer has said but with her explanation, there's more to an FWB.
Author New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 I think they're like DWI and DUI - there's really no significant difference, just 2 ways to say the same thing. See, I think both situations are really a NSA situation, yes. But I also think there is a huge distinction between someone who is simply NSA and someone who is a FRIEND with benefits. Sure, a FWB is still NSA, but you get a lot more than just sex out of it....Right?
Author New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 So how do you treat a FWB differently than a NSA scenario? For example, to steal from the other thread, would you "break up" with a FWB? Do you owe it to them to let them know you're not gonna hook up anymore??
dreamergrl Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 Aren't NSAs complete strangers that know nothing about each other, who hookup and that's it? Where FWBs are two people who know each other and have chosen to solely hookup? This is similar to what dreamer has said but with her explanation, there's more to an FWB. Well I think there's two types of FWB. You could create a FWB with someone new, but when something goes wrong (feelings develope or what not), it's not someone important to you, so you can just move on. The other... is when you have this with someone you already know, and want to continue a friendship when the benefits end.
Author New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 Excuse my ignorance, but what is NSA? No strings attached.
BCCA Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I think they are exactly the same thing, but FWB sounds more palletable. Lets be honest, no matter how much of a 'friend' someone is, you dont go backward after having sex. Even if you care about them past what they have between their legs, most people realize that sex IS going to kill whatever friendship you had. IMHO, you just dont sleep with a true 'friend'.
dreamergrl Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 IMHO, you just dont sleep with a true 'friend'. I don't... but I'm sure there are people that do.
Author New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 I think they are exactly the same thing, but FWB sounds more palletable. Lets be honest, no matter how much of a 'friend' someone is, you dont go backward after having sex. Even if you care about them past what they have between their legs, most people realize that sex IS going to kill whatever friendship you had. IMHO, you just dont sleep with a true 'friend'. This is a very good point. Maybe I just view a FWB situation more like dating? Because in that type of situation I really feel you owe the other person more than just a NSA experience. I think there's more of a relationship in a FWB situation.
Author New Again Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 How would I go about finding NSA and/or FWB? Post an ad on craigslist.
bac Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 How would I go about finding NSA and/or FWB? google 'adult friend finder'
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