Unspoken Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I've been inlove with the girl of my dreams for the past 3 years and she means everything to me, its like I can't go on with my life without her, and I know I've never loved someone like her, I can feel that what I have in my heart for her is stronger than me. Anyhow, lately I'm feeling that there are wrong things going, and I noticed that she lies a lot to me, she doesn't hang out with me that much anymore , I tried to face her so many times but nothing worked out and becuz of all that my life is up side down, my life is falling apart as well as my future I really cannot go on like this anymore, I wanna cut her out of my life and I tried but I couldn't. I love her so much and its killing me!! what can I do?, how can I be stronger? how can I get to my old life without her?.
steelfist9 Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 You gotta confront her before you act, because if you act before you confront her and see what is really going on you will have some regret after acting. It will open up a world of hurt for you. If you keep tryign to get her to talk about what's going on different and she still avoids you, then it may be a sign that her heart isn't really into you as much as it used to be and that she really isn't into the relationship as much as you want her to be. The way I have convinced myself to move on is that why chase after someone that doesn't love you? Even if you get them back they will never live up to what you expect from love and you will only be dissapointed. You gotta just find personal happiness. Hope that helps. Edit: Also, maybe she is losing energy because of, what seems like, your over enthusiasm over her. Maybe you need to tone down your emotions towards her and just go with the vibe.
Nedved Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 I've been inlove with the girl of my dreams for the past 3 years and she means everything to me, its like I can't go on with my life without her, and I know I've never loved someone like her, I can feel that what I have in my heart for her is stronger than me. Anyhow, lately I'm feeling that there are wrong things going, and I noticed that she lies a lot to me, she doesn't hang out with me that much anymore , I tried to face her so many times but nothing worked out and becuz of all that my life is up side down, my life is falling apart as well as my future I really cannot go on like this anymore, I wanna cut her out of my life and I tried but I couldn't. I love her so much and its killing me!! what can I do?, how can I be stronger? how can I get to my old life without her?. sorry to hear your going through that because i know how it feels. i to went from a loving 4 year relationship to a relationship that for the last few months was a nightmare because of her lies and changing attitude towards me. Unfortunatley it sounds like she's lost feelings for you as my ex did with me. You gotta get closure on this now one way or another or you'l be left hanging on. But believe me when i tell you that no matter what you'l be okay. I loved my gf of 4 years so much and it killed me that i was losing her and i knew it. however in the 3 months since she left me i'm learning to live on my own and realise that its not the end of the world but it is very hard especially at the start. I really feel for you because i went through it and it really is heartbreaking. It feels like your whole world has come crashing down and she won't give you an explanation or come clean but clearly there's something up. maybe distance yourself from her without telling her and maybe absent will make the heart frow fonder but you couldjust demand to know where you stand. you have a right to know.
Author Unspoken Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 You gotta confront her before you act, because if you act before you confront her and see what is really going on you will have some regret after acting. It will open up a world of hurt for you. If you keep tryign to get her to talk about what's going on different and she still avoids you, then it may be a sign that her heart isn't really into you as much as it used to be and that she really isn't into the relationship as much as you want her to be. The way I have convinced myself to move on is that why chase after someone that doesn't love you? Even if you get them back they will never live up to what you expect from love and you will only be dissapointed. You gotta just find personal happiness. Hope that helps. Edit: Also, maybe she is losing energy because of, what seems like, your over enthusiasm over her. Maybe you need to tone down your emotions towards her and just go with the vibe. I confront her many times and I asked her , "what is going on with you you're not the same person anymore, we don't hangout that much, tell me what is wrong??" she said "Baby there's nothing wrong but I promise you that everything will get back to normal by time" and thats it, we still talk and have sex, but to me it doesn't feel the same anymore I know that there's something wrong, and its making me go through sleepless nights Thank you steelfist9 for ur replay
Author Unspoken Posted August 18, 2009 Author Posted August 18, 2009 sorry to hear your going through that because i know how it feels. i to went from a loving 4 year relationship to a relationship that for the last few months was a nightmare because of her lies and changing attitude towards me. Unfortunatley it sounds like she's lost feelings for you as my ex did with me. You gotta get closure on this now one way or another or you'l be left hanging on. But believe me when i tell you that no matter what you'l be okay. I loved my gf of 4 years so much and it killed me that i was losing her and i knew it. however in the 3 months since she left me i'm learning to live on my own and realise that its not the end of the world but it is very hard especially at the start. I really feel for you because i went through it and it really is heartbreaking. It feels like your whole world has come crashing down and she won't give you an explanation or come clean but clearly there's something up. maybe distance yourself from her without telling her and maybe absent will make the heart frow fonder but you couldjust demand to know where you stand. you have a right to know. I know for sure that we'll break up cuz its not right anymore, and I know its going to be the hardest thing ever. she's all I ever wanted, but I can't keep on living like this anymore!! I hope that I know whats wrong with her? Thank you nedved
steelfist9 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 You're welcome. Go back to when you noticed the change. Is there anything you can think of that may have occured then? You should do some investigating as to what the cause of her change of behavior is. Go forbid this is what is happening, but you should do some investigating to see if she is cheating on you. A new relationship could be a reason that her feelings aren't as strong. Maybe she's just going through tough emotional times right now and she doesn't want to talk about it. Is she ok emotionally? I was going to say that maybe nothing is wrong and tha it's just that the initial excitement of the relationship has worn off her, but you did say that she acknowledged that things are different. The other thing is that maybe she has lost interest in you and she hasn't had the courage enough to admit it to herself and to you. Good luck. Do some reasearch and post here what you have found if you want. Also, maybe you should analyze if you are overreacting to things because your feelings are maybe too strong.
steelfist9 Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I know for sure that we'll break up cuz its not right anymore, and I know its going to be the hardest thing ever. she's all I ever wanted, but I can't keep on living like this anymore!! I hope that I know whats wrong with her? Thank you nedved Don't break up with her until you find out what is wrong. Calm down and think things through objectively. You most likely are strung out over the love feeling that she gives you and cause of withdrawl from it you may be overreacting. Try to work things out, reasearch things and if it still isn't going the way you want it to, then break up and don't look back unless there is a complete change in her if she comes back to you.
Nedved Posted August 18, 2009 Posted August 18, 2009 I know for sure that we'll break up cuz its not right anymore, and I know its going to be the hardest thing ever. she's all I ever wanted, but I can't keep on living like this anymore!! I hope that I know whats wrong with her? Thank you nedved Your welcome unspoken as i was in your situation myself and its not a nice place to be when you know its not right and coming to an end but Steelfist is right. Don't do anything just yet until you know for sure. Unfortunatley though it sounds like my situation and you'l have to find out where you stand sooner rather than later. Its no good to be left hanging on living in hope. As hard as it is to take in Unspoken you prob deep down know she's lost feelings for you and thats prob whats wrong with her. However don't do anything rash. Maybe its best to distance yourself and see if her feelings surface again. I've been there and i know what your going through. She feels cold and not herself and distant with you? She prob feels like a differenet person and its hard to accept but be strong as hard as it is. Whatever happens your gonna be okay.
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