texaslibby Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 My ex and I have been separated for almost 3 years. It was an extremely volitile and nasty divorce. He has periods of time where all is quiet and then he just explodes, it is a never ending cycle for him so I limit my interaction with him due to this so as to not expose my daughter. My daughter is starting a new school this week and since she is so young it is still considered "daycare" so he is ordered to pay his share. It is by far the best option for my daughter and if my ex was not so short sighted by the fact that his was my idea he would agree as well. He waited until the last minute to refuse to pay his portion thinking I would not be able to afford it and thus not be able to make the transition. It is a huge chunk of money for me (my ex makes about 5 times what I make) and it has wiped out my checking along with my savings, but I know this is the best move for my daughter. So that's the background. My ex is "demanding" to be present at all school meetings and even the meet and greet with the teacher before school starts. I am extremely good at not engaging in arguements but I am so irritated with him right now I am afraid it will be difficult to keep my mouth shut. He is continuously making disparaging remarks and on a normal day I can ignore him. Does he have the "right" to "demand" to be there? I am more than happy for him to do his meeting separately. I have sole custody of my daughter. Our decree states he has the right to access all school/medical records but does not go into this area. I truely feel it is in my daughters best interest for us to not be in the same room right now. He is refusing to pay for this but yet wants the credit for SUPPORTING his daughter. Am I being unreasonable?
MrMayI Posted August 17, 2009 Posted August 17, 2009 i'm sorry if this reads bluntly, but can you two not keep it cool for your daughter's sake? i mean, my stbx and i have been to everything for our daughter's school so far. we've even ridden in the car together. put us anywhere else, and we just don't get along. for our daughter, we zip it up and do what's right, though.
Author texaslibby Posted August 17, 2009 Author Posted August 17, 2009 Blunt is fine. It is not myself I worry about for inappropriate behavior. For the first 2 years we had to do exchanges in a sherriff station because my ex attacked me on two occassions along with the verbal abuse that went with every exchange. To prevent this from occuring I communicate vastly through email so as to limit interaction and thus my daughters exposure to this behavior. I let my ex come to an interview at my daughters new school and he chose to use the meeting as an opportunity to yet again berate me and embarrass me in a public setting. In three years I have made the mistake and engaged in one arguement. I do struggle between letting him walk all over me and not engaging in an arguement. In the end I think it is in the best interest of my daughter to not be exposed to such anger and inappropriate comments.
Recommended Posts